DSS pinching, hitting and throwing things at DS

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My 2.5 DSS keeps hitting, pinching and throwing things at DS who is 6 everyday at least 5-10 times a day!

He is currently sitting on the step thinking about what he's done, we use sanctions, as in taking his favourite toys away etc....

Im not sure if this is working as its still going on, im not expecting miracles in a day but this cant go on, its not fair for my DS to keep having to be subject to this! I am expecting my second DC and when this happens again I will not tolerate it either, I certainly dont tolerate it if my DS acts in this way, which I can count on one hand when we've had an incident like this with him.

What do I do? have you experienced this and if so, what worked for you?

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taking the SS bit out of the equation for the minute, ime hitting/pinching/throwing are all methods used by 2.5 yr olds to get toys/attention

they have limited verbal and negotiating skills, little empathy and pretty much live in the here and now

try to work out what proceeded the current hitting/pinching/throwing episode so that you can spot one coming/developing next time, and distract/divert beforehand

too much punishment makes a very negative sour atmosphere, it's better to use distraction/diversion

catch him being 'good' (you might have to look very hard some days) and praise praise praise

you go on about not tolerating this, I wonder if the fact that it's a step--child makes you harsher? - from the child's POV he has to share space with another child (your DS) and share his DF with him, too. and 2.5 is little more than a baby anyway, lots of impulsivity and lack of thinking things through is to be expected

No of course it has nothing to do with the SM role/SC role..as I said in OP I dont tolerate it from my DS, he also has a lot of praise, they both do, I am a great believer in praising and it does work but on this occasion, I cant say it it, DSS and DS have equal attention given to them both, if anything DSS has more as his grandmother and auntie are always around and my DS is not included in that, also a 2.5 knows its not nice to hit, punch and pinch, yesterday my DS put his hand up in front of him to keep DSS out of his space and DSS came running and said DS pushed him? I was there.

They both have their own toys etc...in fact DS gave DSS all of his thomas trains, tracks, toddler books, wardrobe etc as he came with very little. I went to Toys R Us yesterday and spent £30 on the both of them as a little treat and reward for generally very well behaved boys, its just this hitting thing.

okay

as you are doing all the right things accepting that this is a stage and will pass will make it easier for you all; rather than constantly being saddened or disappointed, understanding that throwing hitting and pinching are part of a 2.5 yr old's armoury and taking steps to reduce the opportunities for throwing hitting pinching will help

I can't remember what the best thing to do about the tale-telling (he pushed me, no I didn't, that kind of thing)

good luck

Thank you, after monitoring it i feel it could be a slight bit of jealousy/sibling rivalry! I'll keep doing what I am and hope that the consistency will eventually put an end to it :)

Unless anyone has more suggestions