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Do I have any right to fight!? (long story, sorry)

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staylor1982 · 23/03/2011 19:05

I am a mum to 3 wonderful kids. My first child, Toby, who is 5 years old is in the middle of being tested for Autisum. I understand and have been told that a diagnosis is not avilable untill 6-7 years old. But Toby has problems at school and when he is at home. Basically he is under doctors ans speech and everything that I find hard to keep up with. I am his official carer so therefore getting carers allowance for him and I also get High Rate care DLA and Low Rate Mobility DLA.
In August last year me and my family moved house. Its a cul-de-sac so a really nice area to live in. But Toby cant play out. We have a very large driveway at the front, enough to fit a tourer caravan and a large family car in. The back garden is a funny shape as its like a triangle shape, and in there is a shed, and a 10 foot trampoline and bikes etc as soon as you walk through the back door theres about 8 ft by 8 ft area to play in which is not alot for Toby to ride his bike. The back garden is all fenced off with a lockable gate.
On the other hand, the front garden does not have a fence or gate at the front of the driveway, it only has a fence to seperate nextdoors houses. When Toby plays in front on his bike, I need to be outside with him as he would walk off. I did let him play out recently and while i was out, nextdoor came out to talk, i took my eyes of him for like 30 seconds, looked back and he was knocking on peoples doors. I dont want that. So as this house am in belongs to a housing asscoiation I ask them about could they put up a fence and a gate at thr front of the driveway. Someone came round, took pics and said i dont seem why not, as your son does have problems and therefore he cant really play out in the nice weather.
Housing has got back to me declining the fence, and saying they not putting one up becasue i have a back garden, but with a very small space theres not enough room for him and his sister to ride bikes?
I just want to know is there a way to fight this, as he clearly needs a fence put up, so I can lock the gate when Toby is out playing. Husband said he will even remove the car while Toby plays. Please give me some advice, as I dont think its right.

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AngelsMummyx · 23/03/2011 22:32

Tell them either they put the fence up or you do,

Explain to them again that he cant play outside if there is no gate, and it's his right too. he cant be confined to the back garden because it sounds tiny, say that he loves biking but the garden is too small and your scared he might injure himself from too smaller space if he bikes in the garden.

They should do it, as the guy said i dont see why not either x

hope you get the fence!! xx

purplepidjin · 23/03/2011 22:44

Bollocks to whoever told you they can't diagnose til he's 6! Dniece is just 5 and was dx at 2.7 Shock

In the meantime, is there anything you can do to secure the area? Drag a pallet across, kind of thing?

PQR · 24/03/2011 10:40

Not making a diagnosis until 6-7 is nonsense, they are trying to fob you off.
In regards to the fence, I am not sure. You have an area outside which is secure, the back garden. It may not have much space but such is life.

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