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Buying a gift for dc1 when dc2 arrives. Did you? If so what?

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soppypreggyloon · 23/03/2011 16:39

dc2 is due soon and I've started thinking about how ds is going to react. I've read/ heard people buy something for their first child when the next one arrives.
Did you?
What did you get them?

I'm not sure what to do and stuck for ideas as it's ds birthday in 2 weeks so thinking about that more than anything.

Cheers! :)

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tostaky · 23/03/2011 16:52

i got DS1 a doll so he could change nappies and give a bottle too....
well he wasnt impressed at all (he was only 16 months though).
he does play with thedoll now and then, trying o dress/undress change nappies and feed it is cute

if your Ds just turns two i think he may be a bit young to understand the fact that DC2 is giving him apresent etc.. imo

I think it is more important to let your DC1 touch and kiss (gently of course!!!) your new baby. i made the mistake of not wanting DS1 to go near DS2 and it became a game for DS1 to jump on DS2 whenevr i had my back turned.. as soon as i let DS1 touch DS2 it all went well

Good luck and congrats!!

CharlotteBronteSaurus · 23/03/2011 16:59

yup. dd2 got dd1 the thing she most wanted in the world- a set a disney princess figures. i would recommend getting something he really wants rather than something baby themed. and if at all possible, something he can play with without too much input from you.

Pinkx3 · 23/03/2011 17:01

I got DD1 a "big sister" set when DD2 was born. It had a t-shirt, mug, book, teddy & stickers (may have been more!) all in a lovely presentation box. She was over the moon and so desperate to be a helpful big sister

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maxmissie · 23/03/2011 17:05

I got dd a Nemo cuddly toy and gave it to her from ds once he came home.

Also on day ds came home, dp took dd out to buy ds a cuddly toy from her, which she chose.

Itsjustafleshwound · 23/03/2011 17:08

No I didn't: My DD was only too happy to have a baby brother and we put in her in charge of doing the 'important' things like choosing the babygro and fetching the nappies ...

Then again, I don't buy my children gifts when it is the other's birthday ...

ifIsaynodontjustaskdad · 23/03/2011 17:19

We got our 2 year old presents from the baby, then when we took her into the hospital to see the new baby we made sure that she knew it was her baby sister, and we got her to introduce the baby to grandparents and everyone as "her baby sister". All visitors to the house were told to make a fuss of older child in a "I hear you have a new baby sister do you want to show her to me" type way. That way the fuss was about her, the baby was a new toy for her, and we instilled the fact that she was the big sister early on. Three months in we haven't really had any jealousy and she is fanatically devoted to "my baby sister, not your baby sister mommy, she is mine" :-)

crystalglasses · 23/03/2011 17:27

If your dc is old enough to notice when people give presents to the new baby, I think it is important that the older sibling is given something in recognition of her new status as big sister. Whe visiting someone who has a new child I always take a gift for the older sibling as well as I remember that awful jealous feeling I had at the time. I think that feeling never really goes away as I've never really bonded with my sister.

ButWhyNot · 23/03/2011 17:32

We got a small present to give DC1 from DC2. He liked it, but it didn't really mean anything special to him, and I don't think it influenced his feelings about brotherhood (he loved the baby straight away and never acted up - well, not about the baby!).

I think far better is to ask grandparents/relatives/friends to please either give something ONLY to DC1, or to both, or to sneak the baby gift to you when older DCs aren't looking! Whenever friends have babies now, I am very careful to bring gifts for the older children, too. Even just a colouring book or a little toy from a pound shop, but wrapped up - a sort of 'congratulations on being a big brother/sister' present.

And the "my baby" fuss that ifIsayno mentions is total magic. We did that, too, and the older 2 really loved it.

Shipscat · 23/03/2011 17:35

DD 'bought' DVDs for my 4yo DTs :-) They came in very useful at feeding times!

OrganisedMayhem · 24/03/2011 09:53

I bought my DD (then 2 1/2) a cuddly George Pig as she already had a Peppa Pig. She was so excited that she had both.... It worked really well as she was just getting into Peppa Pig so it had relevance to her lastest 'fad' but was also about a younger sibling and helped her understand the big sister thing. She still talks about how her baby sister gave it to her 2 years later and likes giving it to her to play with as DD2 is a massive fan of George!

ChrissyHynde · 24/03/2011 09:56

I think it probably depends on the age of your DC. My DD was 5 1/2 when her brother came along and although we had a present lined up it was totally not needed as her focus was on the new baby

redstripeyelephant · 24/03/2011 15:48

DD1 got a little fold and go dolls house when DD2 was born. I knew she'd love it and it kept her occupied while I was busy with the baby!

Depending on how old your DS is, a friend got their 3yo a Kidizoom camera when the baby was born, so he could be very 'helpful' taking pictures of the new baby etc. I thought that was a really nice idea.

Firawla · 24/03/2011 19:05

I didn't when I had my ds2 as ds1 was quite young so didn't have a lot of understanding about it and there wasn't anything he desperately wanted at the time, he seemed to react fine without a present so wasn't really a problem. but with ds3 now I am going to get presents for the others because now ds1 will be older to understand it so i will just get something for both of them, and i know ds1 is desperate for some thomas stuff and trains so will just get him that, not sure what ds2 will get will think of that a bit nearer to the time as he is still too young to tell me what present he wants.
I will get them (mainly ds1) to chose some presents for the baby this time too, might be a nice way for them to feel involved

thinkingkindly · 24/03/2011 19:24

DD1 'found' a very small present at the bottom of DD2's cot in the hospital. She was delighted, still has it and we always talk about it as the present DD2 got her. It was a little wooden game, costing about £3. DSS got tickets to a show, which cost lots more but was a way of giving him time to spend with his dad a few weeks hence.

Pigleychez · 24/03/2011 20:26

DD1 got a new dolly and pushchair from her baby sister. She loved it!

Before DD2 arrived I took DD1 shopping to buy a present for her to give the baby. She choose and little comforter teddy and helped wrap it all up. She bought it to the hospital with her the first time she met baby.

We gave her the present from DD2 when we bought her home from hospital.

DD1 was 21mths at the time.

mrsseed · 26/03/2011 05:48

Dd1 was 5 so althpuhj excited she was in for a big shock with clear memoroes of being only child. She went and 'built a bear' for baby and we got her a 'big girls' necklace-a silver locket. My mum got her a proper watch. And. MIL some big sister themed goodies

It really depends on the age of the child

Roo83 · 26/03/2011 09:46

My ds was 2.5 when dd was born. She got him a buzz lightyear that was in the cot with her when he came to visit at the hospital, he made a build-a-bear for dd and himself,and then had a big present at home for the day dd came home

cory · 26/03/2011 17:28

We bought a pop-up tent as we thought dd might want her own space a bit; she was 3.5. We told her that was a present from little brother. And then her gran took her out to buy a (smaller and less impressive) present from her to little brother.

SandStorm · 26/03/2011 17:38

No, but we made it blatantly obvious to her and all around that she was a very important person in the whole 'new baby' process and she was very involved. She was the first person to be told her sister had arrived safely, the first person to know her sister's name, the first person to visit her new sister, the first person to hold her new sister, the person who got to tell all her teachers and classmates (who had all been waiting impatiently as I waddled up to school every day) etc etc.

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AlmaMartyr · 26/03/2011 17:56

My DD's comfort toy is a little cream bunny so when her brother was born we bought her the giant version of the bunny. He lives in her bed and she adores him. He was almost the same size as her when we got him :) Mostly we just made a huge fuss of her though.

nigglewiggle · 26/03/2011 18:03

DD1 had her 2nd birthday 3 months before dd2 was born. I had ordered a doll's house for her birthday but it was so late coming it arrived just before dd2 made her appearance (GLTC BTW ). It all worked out well though as we gave it to her just after she met her sister and she still loves it now - 3 years on. She was telling her sister how she 'chose' is for her just the other day.

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