To have a third or not?

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Would love another baby but life is pretty easy now my DD2 has turned 3. How much harder is it? Is it worth it? I do love babies and hate the thought of not having another but is the sacrifice too great?

honest answer

just do it

and have a lot of fun

in the making or afterwards?

it's a lot harder IME. It seems like more than double the work for just one extra child.
I find it hard to keep track of mine when we're all out but then ds2 and ds3 are both escape artists who aren't happy unless they're running away from me, which makes things a bit more stressful I also have a fairly small age gap between 2 and 3, so it has been pretty full on.
You can never do the thig where you take one and your husband/parter takes the other... cos there's another one left over! lol

But yes, IMO it's very much worth it. I knew as soon as I had ds2 that I would want another one, hence the small age gap.
The only thing I would change if I did it again was to have bigger age gaps between all of them. But I'd def have 3.
maybe 4.

the age gap between 1 & 2 is 2 years ten months it would be 4 years between dd2 and baby 3. is that enough? DD1 really does not want another baby but DD2 always asks if we can have one - I think it would be the other way around in reality.

oh i have 2 yrs 10 months between my first 2 as well!

if I were you I would go for it!

I have 3 DC and there is 5 years between each of them (hats off to people who have DC with lesser age gaps).
My DC have been great with their new sibling, they are utterly obsessed with him (possibly because they are that bit older) but on the minus side it is a challenge to find stuff to do that entertains all of them.
Having said that, they all seem to mix along quite nicely. I say if you want a third just go for it!

i have 16 months between my two Ds and Ds2 is 1 now and we are thinking about trying for #3 soon..
our friends say we are mad but id hate not having a big family .

inthespringtime - both dp and i have large gaps between us and our brothers thats why we decided to go for small age gaps. we hated not having the same interests/sharing activities andvfriends...
but we have been warned that when universtity time will come its going to be expensive for us and also im a bit when i think that they will all leave home roughly at the same time whereas if we had them spread out we would be a family for longer iykwim

theres no right answer i guess and evyone is tryingto do the thing that work best for them!

tosaky - think you hit the nail on the head when you said everyone is trying to do the thing that works best for them
This is how my family has panned out for various reasons and so far (touch wood) it works.
In an ideal world I wouldn't have had such a large gap but on the other hand it seems to work for us. I love it being just me and DC3 at home - don't think I would cope with a toddler running about too!
Tostaky - you're not mad for considering no3 go for it!

i think it depends on your and your existing kids' temperament tbh. if you're all getting on well, life is calm with relatively few hiccups, go for it. if you feel like you're barely coping, i would say think about it for a bit.

yeah do it! I have 3 boys 2 3/4 years in total between them. its is hard work, but wonderful.

Thats a interesting point warthog. I am always hanging around the 'should we have a third' threads as I am desperate to but dh doesn't want to.
Tbh most of the time I find having 2 dds fairly easy. They both have minor health isssues but their temperaments are fairly easy going.