Bad Behaviour?

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I am really at a loss of what to do and need some good advice as this is getting so hard as what to do for the best.

My son is six and due to turn 7. He will be going to junior school in september. He has been behaving badly at school for the last two months.

It just started with not doing as he was asked which resulted in loss of pc time. Then his behaviour got worse by fighting with the other children so he started losing break times.

Whenever he behaves badly he gets a sad note home which explains what he has done. I discuss this with him and ask him why and I always get the same, 'i dont know'.

It got to the point where he was not phased at all about the sad notes and they had no effect.

The teacher implemented a reward chart which seemed to work for a while, but again started to have no effect.

More recently the teacher under joint discussion agreed to keep a behaviour book detailing his behaviour during the day which I could read and talk to him about and reply in the book. Again this did have an effect.

But today has been the pits. He has thrown chairs and picked fights and had tantrums. He was put in a quiet room and peeled the paint off the walls which I will now be charged for.

I just dont understand. His behaviour at home is very good. He only has an older sister here so we thought maybe its a competition rivalvry thing at school. But at his dads he has a step-brother of a similar age and has no problems.

He goes to bed, has plenty of sleep, eats well, reads his books, and is angel at my sisters with her two children.

At school, he refuses to share, blames other children for misdemenears, refuses to go to assembly, refuses to do P.E. making all kinds of excuses.

They actually rang me today so I could come in as he was in a room in a temper after throwing things around.

Please give me some good advice as I want to help him and dont know how

If his behaviour is only a problem at school it suggests that he has a problem with/ at school. Maybe he's finding it hard work. Teachers don't tend to look for problems like dyslexia/ eye sight/ hearing problems etc which might mean he can't do the work. And when children can't do the work and see themselves falling behind it manifests itself in all kinds of ways.

Thankyou for your replies.

yes I do believe it is a problem at school. We have ruled out bullying. He was bullied two years ago and the class was split into two and it was made sure that he was seperated from the two children who were bullying him and he improved greatly.

We have thought from an early age that he had a hearing problem and has had his hearing checked many times, especially for glue ear and again no problems.

I had a long chat with his teacher today who seems to think he pushes the boundaries. She stated that she feels that he has difficulty working in a large number of children. Often, He works on his own and performs better.

She also stated that he feels very shy and lashes out if a child points something out and he feels like he is being told off.

Example: he was reading a book with another child and turned the page. The other child said to him you have missed a page. He got angry and upset as he felt he was being criticised and got embarrassed. He had actually missed a page and the teacher showed him the page and explain that it was okay.

He goes into school happy and bubbly. He is a very very bright child and way ahead in his maths and english. It is literally a behaviour issue and I am at a loss.