I have 3 kids, 17, 14 & 12 (14 yr old with special needs) long story short, father was very abusive only recently got him out of our lives.
I have no control at all. I recently had to ask 17 year old to go to his father because he kept assaulting the 14 yr old and sometimes the 12 yr old too. 14 yr old with special needs is uncontrollable, will absolutely not do as told and has the most vile mouth on her, regularly has me in tears.
12 yr old is not nasty and better behaved, but has started secondary in September and is now pushing the boundaries, his mouth had got foul and constant fighting with the 14 yr old. The biggest problem is when I try to discipline, he threatens to kill himself.
Incident happened earlier, 17 yr old comes to visit, 14 yr old gives verbal abuse, so 1t yr old assaults her, 14 yr old calls police.
When police arrive they ask 12 yr old to leave the room, he gets cheeky and refuses so police officer had to shout at him, police woman also present told me I have no control and made me feel like crap (perhaps cos she's right)
I'm in a terrible state now, already still dealing with aftermath of their father I'm seriously tempted to put them in care and leave.
I've made such a hash up of being a wife and now mother, I don't know what do do. Can anyone help?