help... i don't think i can do this anymore

[skgnome]

baby got a cold, took her to dr but as she's 9 weeks and no infection there's nothing to do... she's constantly looking for my boob but my nipples are now killing me... she's refusing bottle, so crying non stop, hubby comes home at 7 and no family nearby and all my close friends are single so out for st patricks, know some people from antenatal, but not close enough to ask help... so crying in front of computer with a baby in my arms.. really don't think i can make this being a mom

Can you wrap the baby up, stick her in the pram and speed walk for half an hour?

Oh skg, you poor poor thing. I remember when DS was that age I would be counting down the minutes hours until DH came home. Is she wanting to comfort suck or is she actually hungry? If comfort sucking, could you try her with a dummy? And if she's got a cold calpol might help her feel a bit better - have you tried that? Is there any way your DH can come home a bit earlier just for today? At this age when its hard it is SO hard. You are not alone, I promise you - everyone feels this way at some point. Sending some un-MN-like hugs x

Calpol and Karvol are your friends, get DH to get some in if you can't get out. Or better still, ask one of your ante natal friends. Seriously. The whole point of having friends in the same boat is that they understand, you'd do the same for them.

Do you have a sling, can you put her in that and potter about for a bit to get her to sleep.

Lastly, everyone goes through this at some point, often repeatedly, it's ok, you are doing fine, it's mostly hard because you care, because you are a good mum.

thanks everyone.... we were out earlier, but she just looked miserable in pram... i may try sling for a bit.

i gave her calpol in the morning, but don't want to abuse it... i think the problem is that her throat is sore, she's mostly confort sucking but not taking dummy (which she normally does)

If you've only given her calpol once today you can definitely give her another dose - if her throat is sore it should help. You can safely give 2.5ml every 4-6 hours at your DD's age - its not abusing it - she's poorly and it will help - so don't feel bad!

Poor you and DD :(. If I were you I would get the house lovely and warm, give dd some calpol and run a lovely warm bath for you both.Snuggle in the bath for a while and then get tucked up in bed.
When DH is home get him to bring you tea and chocolate.

Just a suggestion about nipple soreness, I used nipple shields for a bit when i was breastfeeding and they were a miracle, no pain at all. But I think if used constantly they could diminish your milk supply, but worth it for times like this.

Definitely second the nipple shields, never would have lasted as long as I did without them.....

great idea, may try using nipple shields :)

Ahh, the old '9 weeks' nervous breakdown!

I've had 2, and I destinctly remember that 5-11 weeks was my lowest point with both.

Mine are now 3.10 and 15 months and I am contemplating a third. The only thing that is holding me back is the first 4 months!!

You can do it because i did it! I am rubbish with newborns and I cried alot and felt I wasn't going to make it to the end of the day never mind the end of the week.

I absolutely love being a mum to a baby 6 months and above though, very very different so hang in there!

Not that im saying it will take another 4 months.

Just that from 3 months up it gets easier slowly until you emerge from the other side with a happy chubby 6 month old sitting infront of you with a toothless grin.

Use some calpol and the karvol plug in's are good for night time. Don't be afraid to ask someone from the ante natal class - I had a really bad time when hubby was away (also have no friends/family close by) and one of the girls from the group popped over and helped me when I was pretty low! She is now one of my closest friends from group.

Also remember everyone has days like this and you will come out the other side.

There is that brilliant cream for nipple soreness, Lansinoh - Boots/Mothercare/etc sell it, it is about £10 per tube but well worth it.
Could the crying be caused by colic? If so, Colief might help.
I second taking her out in sling/baby bjorn and go somewhere for a coffee so you are with other people or take her to a soft play area they usually have a special area for very young children.

quickchat, you totally got my problem, sometimes I feel that time cannot pass quickly enough... just hopping this cold will quickly go away, using calpol now twice a day, and hubby will be around during the weekend, and then 2 more weeks for 3 months.. hopefully things will get easier by then