How will we cope with 2 babies

[Dani5791]

Im a mother of 1 already Lydia Ann aged 3.5 months and just found out were to have another little 1 how will we manage with them being so young!

advice please ladies

much thanks

Dani x

I did it so it can't be that hard, ds is only 13 months older than dd. Actually I think it's easier having them closer together there was no resentment towards the younger one as the older one won't really remember being the only one. I would never have been able to get a child to school on time if I had a baby to deal with.
One thing that was invaluable was a playpen (I've written about this before on here) ds would go in there to play whilst dd was feeding. Then dd would go in so ds could play and toddle about.
Get a tandem pushchair (or a sidebyside that fits through a normal door). Ds couldn't walk properly when dd was born so getting in and out of the house would have been impossible.
The weaning of dd started before ds could feed himself so I had him in a booster seat on the floor next to her in the bouncy chair and a spoon in each hand.
I think that the only negative was the nappies, having to buy and dispose of so many. But when it came to potty training dd it was a breeze because she copied ds.
Now they are the best of friends, most of the time. Ds is in yr6 and dd in yr5 so their friends know each other and everything that we do is inclusive iykwim, tv programs, films, toys, activities are all age appropriate to both of them.

it all sounds like such fun i just hope it works like that they will be around the same age as your 2 :) thank you for the advice

dani x

Of course I'm looking back through rose coloured glasses.
I'd forgotten about the difficulties of getting a baby in and out of the bath when you're eight months pregnant. Sieving carrots and mashing bananas when you have morning sickness that lasts all day.
At least my ds and dd (and me)both napped together most days. dd slept through from six weeks, ds didn't until 3yrs.

Oh Madam I couldn't do twins, you have to buy two of everything. With mine being a year apart they grew into the others things.

i had a 15month age gap then 18month gap and the closer the better. you do just cope! the last few weeks of pregnancy every time i did something with ds1 i imagined baby was already there and thought about how i would do it so i felt prepared when baby arrived. going out is bit of a mission but i just start getting ready 10-15mins earlier. i always have supplies of snacks in the bag for me and toddler and a toy or something to entertain him in every corner of the house so where ever we are if i'm busy with baby he's got something to do.

thank you for all the advice ladies i feel almost prepared im sure we will be fine its just so scary :)

thanks!
x