Hysterical crying when put into cot!

[Lindt]

Hi,

Can anyone please give me some advice?

I have 10 month old twins boys. One is a great sleeper and the other has been a nightmare since birth.

We go upstairs around 6pm, bath, change nappies and clothes and then give them their last bottle in the dark.

One goes down and sleeps straight away and the other cries as soon as his head hits the cot.

We have tried controlled crying with us going in every few minutes, picking him up and he calms straight down, (even does a sigh of contentment in my arms every time!!) then as soon as you put him down again he screams.

Tonight we had screaming for an hour and a half!!

What can we do, as I think its possibly getting worse as he gets older and I'd like to try and get this solved.

When he's crying, it sounds like its the end of the world for him and I don't know what to do anymore.

Please help.....

Thanks,

Is he always uncomfortable lying down, does he never sleep like this? DS would fall asleep after a nappy change on his back but DD is not comfortable on her back, she started sleeping much better when she was old enough to sleep on her front.

Did he have colic when younger? He might still have some digestive discomfort - have you tried a warm bath and then baby massage?

Also, I've heard cranial osteopathy can be helpful for babies who've been crying from discomfort of some sort since birth, apparently (not sure if it is just anecdotal) babies delivered by CS can benefit from this? In your shoes I'd try it, can't see any harm in doing so.

Yes, he sleeps on his front all the time actually, so I'm not sure why I put him on his back, habit I guess. No, he didn't have colic. I'm not 100% sure it is discomfort, its more like he just doesn't want to go to bed.

He does eventually sleep quite well, its just the first night time put down that he starts to go mental.

May try the cranial osteopathy, that's worth a go.

Thanks

I would try putting him down on his front when he's not actually that tired and going for the Baby Whisperer "shush pat" method, if he is screaming at that age and not uncomfortable it may be that he's overtired. He might also need more daytime sleep than his brother.

If you have tried CC have you read Dr Ferber's book "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems" - I found the parts about schedules and how you can tell if your child is actually tired or not very helpful.

Hi
I have no experience of twins, so might be a bit different, but the best advice I can give is be consistent and stay focused. He will get it eventually.

All babies go through stages like this, even the best sleepers and whilst it can seem like forever at the time, they do pass through it quickly without you even realising it.

10 months is an age where they start being aware of being separated from you and if you have checked everything else, this is probably the problem. Just keep reassuring him calmly and firmly but dont pander too much to it otherwise he will also soon learn that crying hysterically is the best way to get what he wants.

Both my two (DD4 and DS2) went through stages like this, often triggered by changes in routine as well as new developmental stages. DS has just passed through one triggered by a holiday and involved him screaming "no bed! I want mummy bed!" for hours.
As long as you stick to your guns and everytime keep consistent, he will calm down. Just dont get yourself into routines you dont want to continue long term eg endless rocking or bringing him into bed with you. He now goes down without a whimper. We are still working on the 5.30am starts though!

Keep sticking to your guns and you will soon be proudly boasting of your two perfect sleepers!
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