what would a psychologist make of this dad?

[step2]

I find it very strange and irritating that a friend's dh speaks about himself in a very odd fashion. for example when speaking directly to his children he will say "yes daddy will push the swing for you" or "daddy would like to leave now" or "daddy was working all day and is tired but will play with you as soon as he has had a chance to check his mail".
Is it me or is this odd?

A lot of parents of small children will use the third person in order to help the child learn who people are. it is daft but not unusual

I have done it about myself as ds has heard a lot of people around him calling me by my first name. Especially when he stopped calling me mummy and only called me by my first name. it was a way of reenforcing that i was mummy. as he got older it was possible to explain about being first name and mummy but he was already used to the idea. It would be more odd if he was expecting the child to call him by his first name imo.

Very common if the children are small. If they're older than 4 or 5, then a bit silly, but nothing weird all the same. Children don't usually 'get' pronouns when they're small.

Don't most people do this? I do.

"Can Mummy have some?"
"Hold Mummy's hand"
"Just wait, Mummy is busy"

Normal.

Very little ones don't understand the concept of you, i, we, etc and so need to be spoken to using names/mummy/daddy.

I find myself doing this and it drives me nuts to talk about myself in the third person. Sometimes I correct myself even, then think that is daft too. Parenting is bloody confusing sometimes.

I do it. So I guess I'm odd?

Of course it's not odd

My aunt still does this to me and I'm 32, so that is strange. But to describe yourself in the third person to a small child to reinforce who you are is not odd.

of course this is not odd. Small children stuggle with pronouns so referring to people by their names and not I, he, me etc can make it difficult for them.

I did this with ds until he was around 4/5 years old. Nowadyas I use the appropriate pronoun for myself but I used to refer to myself as "mummy" when he was younger

So I would say it is definitely you and not the dad who is unusual. Then again as I used to do this myself, I would say that .

i do it. not so much with older ds but withd s2 who is almost 2 i would say things like " do you want mummy to help?" or "show mummy what you want"

Everyone I know does this, I thought it was normal, I am very surprised you haven't come across this before!

Um, I'm a psychologist and I speak to DS like this all the time! Never crossed my mind that it might be seen as odd. I shall go and ponder. Or just eat some chocolate!

TBH it always makes me cringe when I hear people talking about themselves in the third person.

From my (admittedly limited :) ) experience, children seem to understand pronouns very early on.

Me too firsttimer and yes, I do it too (DS 19 months).

TBH step2, we wouldn't be all that interested. Sorry. Too many abused/neglected/traumatised people to wade through. Unless he paid us £100 an hour and then I'm sure we could have a think about it for him

agree with redroller-its so common i dont get why youve never come across it before. And agree with carve133, there are far more important and interesting issues to think about!!

Have to laugh.
So many have to come on and make derogatory remarks about other peoples queries.

Muslimah28 etc I know there are more important and interesting issues to think about but why can't we talk about non-issues at times too?

Plus I was asking in a roundabout way as it is me that does this and someone commented on it which made me wonder that's all

I do this, but get confused sometimes with pronouns, e.g. "Mummy's going to wash her hands, er my hands, no her hands..."

I've always done it, when my kids are small anyway.

Got to say I've never questioned it, thought it was something everyone did