really struggling with ds atm please help?

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Its his attitude basically. It stinks, everything we say and do is met with attitude, strops, he has started using bad language and I just can't stop him

He has adhd and has difficulty in controlling his temper, if he is told off for attitude he will punch and kick walls in temper. He will just not do as he is told.

He tells lies and exaggerates the truth, He recently went to his school medical and told the nurse there that my dp hits him and starves him which involved a visit from social services, my dp was mortified and later ds admitted it wasn't true.

If I try to discipline him he laughs and says you can't touch me, shout at me, tell me off, because I will tell school and you will get into trouble..
He has driven me and dp to the brink many times and today has just been the last straw.

I seriously cannot cope with him anymore

How old is he? Are there any outside agencies involved with him at or outside of school?

I think you should have a meeting with the school and see what they can suggest. We have had similar with our DS in the past (he is now 15) and the school were brilliant - getting pastoral care involved and enrolling him in anger management sessions.

He is involved with Team around the child at the moment. He has had anger management and it has made not one jot of difference. He thinks he is an adult, he tries to take over my role as parent which is not right, is arrogant and rude to people.

Believe me I haven't brought him up to be like this, his sisters are completely different.

he's 11. The school are pretty good really

The thing is he is very good at pulling wool over eyes. I have had agencies involved with us before, only for him to behave perfectly, they have said oh isn't he lovely he odesn't have a problem etc and then he would kick off as soon as he was out thier door/at home