Leaving DD.........

[Dozeyland]

I am EB my 5 month old DD. and i take her to baby groups, and do spend all day with her (Partner works in the day)

I have the opportunity to do a 5 week course in "confident parenting" at the baby centre i take her to, but she would need to go in the creche.....

I still feel a bit nervous leaving her with people (especially outside our family)
I know they are trained, and i would onlybe next door but all these things you hear in the paper etc. I've been a nursery nurse before and i know that the majority of them can be lovely. i just feel a bit nervous leaving MY daighter for 2 hours on a monday..

I can go in whenever she needed me (she feeds quite frequently in the daytimes) but its the initial -Not having her with me part.

I've only left her with famil members for like 2 hours ish so far...

you'll be fine go for it

agree with custardo - it'll be hard the first time but she'll be fine

If you are next door then you can check she is ok, be confident that they will come and get if there are any problems

I would give it a try, if it doesn't work you can drop out but hopefully the 'confident parenting' course will be good with lots of tips to help it work

sounds great you should do it. Maybe u can meet the nursery staff beforehand to reassure you.

I think it would be positive thing for you, in that it would help you feel confident leaving your DD, as well as getting the tips from the course.

She won't be far from you, so it is a good opportunity for you.

You know it's the right thing.. She is going to be next door.. For two hours. None of us found it easy, but there has to be a first time..

When my DS was 7 months old and not really established on solids I had to leave him for 5 hours to take my husband to hospital.. You don't want to start like that, I can guarantee you. This is a brilliant opportunity to do it in a very controlled way.. And I'm very jealous of your course!!!

You'll both be fine, am I the only one smiling about the irony of being nervous about going on a confident parenting course ?

No..not the only one

They run lots of free courses in my area, so i put my name down, not that i have any doubts in my parenting so far, just something new i guess :)

Dozey - I'm sure you're doing great as a parent, I wassn't meaning to laugh at you, just the humour of the situation.

Sorry if I offended you.

Definitely a great way to get started leaving DD with people. I know of toddlers who struggle with this as they've not been left. It was hard when I first left DD with the CM at 9mo but it's given us a great platform.

I'd pop along to see the creche in advance, maybe see how they interact with your DD (could you leave her for 15mins and grab a coffee?). I would anticipate that you might get called out in the first few weeks but do give it a chance to improve.

Our DD is now really confident being left with people. She goes to creche at church, to our CM and has just started staying overnight at the PIL. The opportunity to have a lovely meal out with DH is brilliant :)