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Returned Birthday Present

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kittens · 09/03/2011 10:59

Hi,
Just wondered if this is acceptable behaviour or if I'm being really sensitive. My friend recently had a birthday party for her daughter, my daughter couldn't attend but I bought a present and gave it to her anyway.

A couple of day later I got a call from my friend saying her DD already has the item I purchased and she would give it back to me so I could return it and buy something else. I explained that I had purchased the present online so I couldn't return it, but she said she'd still like another present.

I was a bit gobsmaked... but a few days later the present was returned to me.

I am now wondering whether to bother getting her anything or am I being overly sensitive and just get her a replacement present - WWYD????

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going · 09/03/2011 11:02

That is very rude.

If I already had a present I wuold excahnge it myself or re-gift it but most importantly say 'Thank you'.

Personally I would not buy her anything else.

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kittens · 09/03/2011 11:04

Thanks going thats how I felt, but wasn't too sure I was just being overly sensitive.

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stream · 09/03/2011 11:06

Agree with going. It was very nice of you to buy a present in the first place, considering your dd wasn't able to go.

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BadBagel · 09/03/2011 11:07

With an attitude like that there is no way I would get her a replacement present.

Llanarth · 09/03/2011 11:09

that's incredibly rude of her! Am really shocked. To even say anything is rude, but to tell you she wants another present, after you've told her you're unable to get a refund, is incredible!!

By not getting another present you'll prob loose her as a friend, but I think she's a 'friend' not worth having.

Carrotsandcelery · 09/03/2011 11:10

I agree with going. I wouldn't have a row with her but I wouldn't buy a replacement gift either. I would have changed the gift myself or regifted it too. And I would have written or got dd to write a thank you note to you as well.

maras2 · 09/03/2011 11:10

Cheeky mare.Tell her to bog off.

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kittens · 09/03/2011 11:22

Thank you all, I think you have helped me make up my mind. I won't get her a replacement and see if she has the cheek to mention it!!

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BigBadMummy · 09/03/2011 11:25

The fact you have bought something online does not mean that you cannot return it. You will, but will have to pay postage I suspect.

But why should you?!!

How blardy rude is she?

She should have simply said "thank you" and then re-gifted it when her child attends another party.

Is the child really so desperate for presents?

I would not be buying a replacement present!

MamaLazarou · 09/03/2011 11:34

Unbelievably bloody rude. Nasty, grasping cow.

Davsmum · 09/03/2011 11:34

Don't get another present - Get a new friend.

gettingout · 09/03/2011 11:38

Wow I'm amazed she's so rude!!
I definitely would not exchange for her.

Regift at the next party.

DS just had a party with a small mountain for gifts, some were duplicates. I will be re-gifting. If he already has so many toys that they double up then IMO he has too many and can afford for a few to be given away.

Firawla · 09/03/2011 11:49

omg how rude!! dont get her a replacement present, i don't think they should be rewarded for bad manners. If the mum was that bothered she could have taken the duplicate one off her dd and bought her a replacement herself, keeping the spare one by for other parties.

tryingtoleave · 09/03/2011 11:52

Greedy! Give the present to your dd or keep it for another party. No way would I give another present.

squeaver · 09/03/2011 11:52

Some people just have no self awareness whatsoever.

Is she going to chase you now if you don't buy another present?

HeartSkipsABeat · 09/03/2011 11:53

RUDE!!!

It was perfectly reasonable for her to tell you she already had it, but she should've just said not to worry about it. FFS.

Definitely no replacement gift! Cheeky moo.

HeartSkipsABeat · 09/03/2011 11:56

And even if you'd bought it in a shop and had the receipt, the onus should (IMO) be on HER to do the returning, i.e. you give her the receipt.

It shouldn't be your job to go out present-huntin' all over again, and risk buying another duplicate!

Snotgobbler · 09/03/2011 12:01

and thrice
incredibly rude, we just re gift when this happens
I would have to ditch her too

TheSleepFairy · 09/03/2011 12:05

Very rude.
Don't replace the present, just keep it for another party.

We have received gifts in the past that we already have & I normally keep them to re-gift at another party.

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kittens · 09/03/2011 13:47

Thanks for all your replies. I feel much better about not getting a replacement and passing the present onto another child.

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