Irrational fear

[Sar1106]

I've probably posted this in the wrong section but I was just wondering if anyone else had / has irrational fear about something terrible happening to themselves or their child?

I had a brilliant pregnancy, I did not suffer with any PND but every now and then I get really anxious and therefore tearful that something terrible is going to happen to DS or even to me so he grows up without me. I just love him so much I don't know what I'd do without him. He is 10 months old now and I thought this would have passed by now.

Am I being a nutcase?!?! is this a normal feeling to have?!

Thanks :)

i dont think you are a nutcase - i definitely had this with dd1- she is 5 now and I still get it but only from time to time. Havent felt it with dd1, probably less time to fret with second one, strange.

havent felt it with number 2 i meant

Normal. It should ease off a bit in coming months.

You are not being a nutcase!

I think it's normal to have fears but not to act on them IYSWIM. I lost my mum when I was young and sometimes I feel so frightened if I'm away from my kids. Then I acknowledge the fear and move on and enjoy a few brief moments of freedom.

I have had a few dreams recently about my DDs (age 2 & 4) drowning in the swimming pool

Phew, thanks ladies! I was beginning to think I was cracking up!

I'm the type of person that has no fear and craves to do adrenalin rushing things such as parachute jumps and swimming with sharks and these thoughts / feelings have completely knocked me for six as I don't want to smother him; I want him to be as adventurous as me (or at least as I was!).

Fingers crossed they go soon, I want to feel normal again :o

For me I find the flip side of Love is Fear, its like two sides of the same coin and by recognizing the feelings of fear I feel as related to the love I find helps me.

I also, when imagining / worrying about scary scenarios try and imagine the flip side, absolute opposite and try and feel complete confidence in my daughter and her ability (usually this is about her ability to breathe in the night!)

I would waste my life worrying if I didn't try and stop the train of thought from escalating and I'd much rather be confident. I guess some of us it takes a bit more work?

I identify with that Sar. I used to scuba dive but recently- on a trip to the Whitsundays with my girls I found I just couldn't do it. The DDs were in the resort nursery and I just couldn't think of anything but "what if..." as we were going through the safety checks on the dive equipment. I pulled out from the dive trip before the boat left and went and picked them up and hugged them and squeezed them and kissed them. DH still went and of course, was fine. But I wouldn't have enjoyed it.

Whitsundays, shmitsundays! Diving is off the list. For now...

FGM- me too! I was a divemaster. I havent been since I became a mum! I'm hoping when the kids are old enough to dive, I'll feel ok enough about it to take them, but I'm not hopeful!

I miss diving

Thanks everyone - really appreciate your kind words, it is nice to know that these are normal and I'm not secretly cracking up!!! I will try to remember that when they surface again!

:)