Do yours and your DHs parenting techniques differ?

[threecurrantbuns]

Im interested to know as some of dhs and mine do.

If so, how do they differ? And how does it affect you all, my dh works shifts so is around the children a fair bit so we have to try to work together on the parenting as much as poss.

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Hi threecurrant buns - I think our core values are the same IYSWIM?

For example we feel the same about nice manners, education, not smacking, not too many sweets ect.

I think we are stricter about certain things, but we dont argue about our parenting as we do agree on the key things. (We do argue about other things tho!)

My friend and her dh are total opposites and its a nightmare for her as her dh constantly undermines her.

Yes, but not too much. I am around the kids more than dh so he tends to back me up on things. The one we disagree most about is the importance of a regular, relaxed bedtime. But I have noticed that if he's been looking after them for a longer time (e.g. at the weekend) he's keener to get them to bed early!

We agree on the big things like discipline, eating, bedtimes, how we all speak to each other. We make an effort to agree on things though, as we're feeling our way into the big stuff like discipline as DD is only 2 and a bit. We talk about how to deal with things that come up and also what she likes doing and what we should do as a family.

We do differ somewhat on small things - for example DP is more cautious in the playground, following DD around more, and worries more about her eating mud in the garden, putting loads of sand in her hair and so on. I on the other hand tend to get more het up worrying if she's had a fun weekend or eaten properly. I suppose it's down to our personalities...

We have completely different views-it's a real struggle sometimes. Luckily I do 99.9% of the childcare so the odd treat with daddy doesn't seem to be harming them