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Help! 11m keeps falling out of bed

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Sunnydale · 05/03/2011 15:29

I've been away for one night and when I got back DH had decided our DD, 11 months, is happier sleeping in a bed than her cot. It's true she hates the cot / wakes up frequently but sleeps through the night in the bed. However am I mad in thinking 11m is too young to be in a bed? Even with a bed guard, she is too young to know not to stand up and throw herself over it, surely? Isn't that the point of cots: like them or not, they are safe? I was just starting to google "bed guards" when I thought "hang on a minute - this is crazy". So I just wanted someone on here to confirm that there is no way to keep what is essentially a baby safe in an adult bed. One side is agains the wall and her DS (4) is sleeping above (its a bunk) but even so, shouldn't we persevere with the cot?
Sorry to ask: DH alway thinks I disagree with him so I thought I should ask MN as a moderator. Thanks v much for any answers

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caughtinanet · 05/03/2011 15:31

Not an expert but I wouldn't put an 11 month old in a bed but I suppose you could put just the mattress on the floor so its not too far to fall.

llareggub · 05/03/2011 15:33

Well, my DS2 has really only slept in a bed. We co-slept until he was around 11 months when he went into his own, very low bed. He has never had a bed guard, but his bed was so low it is practically on the floor.

In the beginning I put lots of cushions on the floor just in case, but he never fell out as far has I know. His older brother went into a bed at 12 months but that was because he was spiderbaby and kept clibming out.

I think if you all get more sleep in a bed then you need to look at ways of making the bed safe. Perhaps put the mattress on the floor for now?

belledechocchipcookie · 05/03/2011 15:34

I'd say that an 11 month old is far too young to be in a bed.

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llareggub · 05/03/2011 15:41

Why do you think that, Belle? My DS was absolutely fine in a bed. We did however childproof upstairs with a stairgate at the top of the stairs, doors closed to other rooms and bathrooms.

collision · 05/03/2011 15:44

We put our baby into a travel cot which was much wider and impossible to climb out of!

11m is waaaaaaaaay too young for a bed.

imvho

belledechocchipcookie · 05/03/2011 15:44

Really? Wow. I didn't put my son into a bed until he was 2, the main reason being that he used to roll around when he was asleep. I did used to find him on the floor every night afterwards. His first bed was a toddler bed so very low so thankfully he didn't hurt himself. There's no real reason for a cot then is there?

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Sunnydale · 05/03/2011 16:52

Thanks for all your replies. You won't believe this but my DH had only put a suitcase next to the bed "to stop her falling out" Obviously, she fell out. Because she's a baby. And babies move around. Back to the cot tonight - just not looking forward to the argument, is all. With DH, I mean, not the baby...

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Lulumama · 05/03/2011 16:54

mine did not move to a bed until the age of 2. 11 months is way too young

and he had put something ( stupid ! ) thre in case he fell, so he must have known it was possibitlity, so baby back in the cot.

crystalglasses · 05/03/2011 16:57

It's strange the way some dh want the baby to grow up before they reach the right developmental stage.(Not weel put but yswim). When my dc was tiny my dh would always swivel the pushchair seat so that our dc could see where he was going whereas I felt that the most important and comforting sight was his dm or df

Meglet · 05/03/2011 16:59

Pop her back in the cot, with a bit of luck she'll be ok in a few nights .

DS didn't go into a bed until he was 3. DD is 2.6 and still in a cot.

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Sunnydale · 05/03/2011 18:32

Why would a baby even not like a cot? How can it even know the difference between a cot and a bed at 11m? That's what I don't get. I mean, a mattress is a mattress, right?! She's in the same grobag; the only difference is that the cot has bars. To keep her safe! It's all very odd. Thanks again for all your advice

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WorzselMummage · 05/03/2011 18:37

Far too young. My dd went into a bed at 2.5 and I thought that was early! I'm intending on leaving ds in the cot forever so I know where he is

Surely an 11month old isn't safe too be left in a room on their own sighing reach of plugs/cords/toppling furniture/small chokey objects etc etc etc.

aPixieMomma · 05/03/2011 19:06

Don't think 11months is too young.

Know a few who've gone straight into beds at around 12months after co-sleeping with parents.

And surely cords/toppling furniture/small choosy objects would be out of the way no matter what the age of the child?

Saying that my ds1 is 22months and still in a cot, but he has no problems with it, sleeps well in it and tbh I can't really be assed to change it into a bed just yet while I am up all night with ds2 feeding etc.

Up to you though. I would probably say to dp you'll give her one more night in the bed with pillows etc on the floor just in case she rolls off and if it doesn't work then cot tomorrow.

candleshoe · 05/03/2011 19:07

Bed rails!

candleshoe · 05/03/2011 19:09

Actually now I've read this all properly - she is too young to be in a bed at all - with or without proper bed rails.

My three were in cots until 2 and a half!

piratecat · 05/03/2011 19:10

bed rails yes, but not for a 11month surely?

They are normally mesh, but i wouldn't be happy.

Iggly · 05/03/2011 20:11

You said she sleeps through in a bed. How if she falls put? Is this in a bed with you/DH? I have noticed that DS's cot mattress isn't as soft as ours - and the mattress cover probably makes it worse. Have you considered a pillow (under the sheet) in her cot? Could make things more comfy (although pillow isn't recommended until 1, I think?)

JarethTheGoblinKing · 05/03/2011 20:13

Instead of having her in a bed, can you totally child-proof her room and put the mattress on the floor so that if she does fall out, she'll just fall a couple of inches?

1234ThumbWar · 05/03/2011 20:14

My ds learnt to throw himself out of his cot at 13 months even though he was in a grow bag. I've no idea how he did it, but he was in danger of hurting himself so we didn't have any choice but to put him in a bed. We had a spare mattress, so put it right next to the bed, so if he did fall out in the night he didn't have far to fall and it would be a soft landing. He was fine, but getting him to stay put at bedtime wasn't fun.

Teaandcakeplease · 05/03/2011 20:25

The gro bag duvet is pretty good as it zips to the sheet so they are snug and cannot roll out. The mothercare or similar bed guards are good as well. However there are beds very low to the ground you can buy as well, or as others have said put the mattress on the floor.

Both of mine had to move to a bed once they began climbing throwing themselves out of the cot. So I had to suddenly heavily child proof room and looks into safer beds/ bedding etc.

Teaandcakeplease · 05/03/2011 20:28

*look

BTW Ikea do a fabulous bunk bed where the bottom bunk is completely flush against the floor and if they rolled out it is literally 2 inches to the ground. I think it's called Kura but in the showroom a few weeks ago I was marvelling at the bottom mattress being slim and close to the floor.

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