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Should we have another child?

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leedsgirl · 20/10/2005 14:03

We have a wonderful 15 month year old son who we love to bits and are a very happy little family. The thing is we are now starting to wonder whether we should have another child or not. I had always taken for granted I would have at least 2 children but now not so sure. My DH and I both have troublesome relationships with our siblings and are now starting to wonder whether we should just stick to our DS. Not sure though if being an only child would be worse for him though - any thoughts? Advice much appreciated.

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expatinscotland · 20/10/2005 14:04

He's only 15 months? Why not leave it another 6 months-1 year and see how the two of you feel about it then?

FangAche · 20/10/2005 14:06

Leedsgirl - After dd was born when ds was 3 I had a terrible few days tormented with guilt! How could I DO that to my beautiful ds?? Was he not enough for me?? Will he think I don't love him??
It passed very quickly when I saw how much he loved his little sister. He is 4 now and she is 14mths and watching them together gives me goosebumps and makes me want to cry with happiness. I know its not always like that.
My sister and can't sit in the same room as each other even now! I actually blame the way we were brought up....... always competing against each other!

Don't let it stop you having another baby if you both want one.

pablopatito · 20/10/2005 14:06

My advice is don't listen to any advice on internet forums. And don't allow your relationships with your siblings affect your decision, its not relevant. And just follow your heart. (And ignore my advice of course).

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madmummyof2 · 20/10/2005 14:08

if you are all happy and not in any rush to have another then dont.

children should not be had simply because you feel you should.

yeah we all spent our childhood years with our dreams of having 4 kids but we also dreamed of getting married to a handsome prince in a big pink wedding dress and living in a castle happily ever after...now unless your Jordon i guess you r plans cchange.

i dont think you or your Ds will suffer from being an only child. and hey one day you might find yourself ultra broody and then you can have another one.

madmummyof2 · 20/10/2005 14:09

actually scrap what i said....im with pablo!!

Flowertop · 21/10/2005 11:27

I could never make up my mind whether to have any at all. The decision making over the years drove me near to madness. Once I had DS1 I didn't want to go through wondering whether to have another so shut my eyes and went for it with no regrets. I would say that those people who say oh you don't want him/her to be an only child as they will be so lonely, live in the dark ages. Today's only children have so much on offer out there that they need never be lonely and my experience of 1 child is that they like to have their own space. I know loads of people with 1 child and the kids have lots of friends and happy lives. Sorry not being much help just want to say there's no right or wrong way but more and more people are deciding just to have the one.XX

aloha · 21/10/2005 11:31

I wouldn't even think about it atm, if I were you. Maybe a year down the line or more broodiness will suddenly bite you on the bum. And then you'll know. Personally, I think there is a lot to be said for enjoying them one by one.

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