When other parents mention your child has called theirs a name......

[DrNortherner]

Got collared by another Mum at school today. Never spoken to her before. She very nicley, but very firmly told me her dd was crying and scared to come to school because my ds had called her a name and could I have a word with him. To which I said of course, and thanked her for mentioning it.

Spoke to ds and he says the girls bother him at playtime and she called him a name first Anyway, she did call him a not very nice name, and he called her a not very nice name.

Have dealt with ds, but, should I then also tell the other Mum that I have spoken to ds and explain his side of the story or just leave it?

Thanks

I would be tempted to tell the other mum, very nicely, that you have spoken to DS and dealt with him and told him that name calling is never acceptable. I would also mention what he had said and that they had both called each other names. Neither you nor the other mum will ever know what the truth is, but I think she should know that it wasn't totally one-sided. I am sure that she will deny that her precious DD could do anything so awful and I wouldn't get drawn into that. But I think she needs to know.