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Would i be the worst mum in the world if.........................

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Mandymoo · 18/10/2005 20:40

I didnt throw a birthday party for my 3yr old in Dec? Just seems such an expense for one so young. I have booked the day off work and thought about taking her somehere special with maybe another friend. BUT the guilt has started to take over!

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kama · 18/10/2005 20:41

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flutterbee · 18/10/2005 20:41

Don't be so silly birthday parties aren't the be all and end all. A really nice day out with her mummy and the odd treat will bring as much joy to her as any party and will require a lot less tidying up.

stitch · 18/10/2005 20:41

dont feel guilty.
the money will be better spetn elsewhere. and you will be able to make up for the guilt on the 4,5 6, 7, ad infinitum.

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RottenRhubarbWitch · 18/10/2005 20:41

Not at all. Best thing to do imo, birthday parties are just awful! If you feel bad, you could invite one or two of her best friends over for an hour to play with her new toys and perhaps sing happy birthday to her.

But children's parties suck, generally!

MamaG · 18/10/2005 20:42

Is she asking for a party? When my dd was three, i just took her out for a special day with a friend. When she was 4 she asked for a party, so fair enough.

I don't think they are that fussed at 3.

Caligula · 18/10/2005 20:42

God know, 3 year olds don't need birthday parties.

We only give them because their wretched playmates have them.

(Actually, my DD's not getting one till she's at school - not so much pressure at nursery.)

Mum2girls · 18/10/2005 20:42

My first response is bugger the guilt, she'll have her mum all to herself doing nice stuff all day.

But, has she asked for a party?

Donbean · 18/10/2005 20:43

NO! Not at all, i think its a very good idea actually. I know what you mean about the guilt thing, but you are absolutely right it is an expense for some one so young.
Stick to your decision, be loud and proud when any one asks you what you are doing for her birthday. They will all probably agree that you are sensible and right.
Good on you, thats what i say.

Merlin · 18/10/2005 20:43

mandymoo - having the same feelings here. DS1 will be 5 and as he has had a party every year since he was born, this year have decided to just do something special with me and DH (possibly invite along a friend).

My justification is that he is still young and will have loads more parties to come yet!

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Mandymoo · 18/10/2005 20:44

Mamag - no she isnt asking for a party? In fact i actually asked her if she wanted one and she said no but i dont know if she really understands. I think i would rather spend the money on lots of little treats for her throughout the day/evening rather than worry about what crappy presents to put in the party bags (no offence)

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ThomBat · 18/10/2005 20:45

No not at all, she's with her mummy getting loved and having a day out, she'd probably prefer that at ther age tbh., I know mine would.

Wallace · 18/10/2005 20:50

dd is 4 and has never had a party

Gobbledispook · 18/10/2005 20:51

Mandymoo - thinking about this myself. Ds2 is 3 on 5th November and I was thinking about doing a party at home for him. It seemed like a good idea when it was far away but now it's approaching it seems so much effort!!

I'm not sure he would expect a party and the first proper party (bouncy castle, 25 kids etc) ds1 had was for his 4th birthday earlier this year.

Since it's bonfire night, will it be enough just to do somethign with family and do his first party next yr?

His friend had a party for her 3rd birthday in Sept but it was nicer weather and they had a bouncy slide - I can't do that in NOvember so it would mean soft play (blerugh and prob too late now) or all in the house.

Hmmmm...

JoolsToo · 18/10/2005 20:52

No!

Gobbledispook · 18/10/2005 20:52

Is that to me or mandymoo???!!!

NannyL · 18/10/2005 22:16

that would NOT make you the worst mum in the world, NO WAY !!!

madmummyof2 · 19/10/2005 18:55

yes dreadfull.

lol only joking of course not. as long as you make the day special it doesnt matter.

plus its good that they dont get too commercialised about birthdays and things. its about celebraating another year of life and to make her day great. why spend loads of money for other peoples kids?

HRHQoQ · 19/10/2005 19:02

good grief of course not! DS1 had a "party" for his 1st birthday (all my postnatal group friends over for them to play together) - and a 5th birthday party - at home with a few new "friends" from schools - and nothing for his 2nd, 3rd or 4th

soapbox · 19/10/2005 19:11

I would do something nice and cheap on the day. Save the expensive parties for when he's at school and old enough to know what he's missing!

HRHQoQ · 19/10/2005 19:14

haha - who needs expensive parties - DS's 5th birthday party cost me the princly sum of...........£20 - and they all had a hoot

staceym11 · 19/10/2005 19:41

my dd will have her birthday party this year (1st) a christening one next year (along with birthday) and then nothing till shes about 7! hehe!

Katemum · 19/10/2005 19:47

My ds had his first party this year for his 5th birthday and only because he asked for one and because it was a noce way to say bye to all his nursery friends before they all went their seperate ways to school.

HRHWickedwaterwitch · 19/10/2005 20:40

I did a birthday tea with 2 friends for ds's 3rd, I think you can definitely do a day out, she'll love it. There are PLENTY of parties to come, don't feel guilty.

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