What's a good gap?

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between babies, obviously. What's the impact of big/little gaps on them, you, your body, relationship, work? I have a nine month old, am loving motherhood, and considering second, is it insanely soon?

My dds are 21 months apart and I think the age gap is wonderful - they are great friends and play with each other all the time. It was exhausting at the beginning though!

19mo here and it's been great - so second MrsF, definitely not too soon to go for it!

no i don't think its too soon, that would give you around a 1.5 yrs gap which is not that uncommon and a lot of people find good. (my gaps are around that, one just under and one just over)
but dont think there is an ideal gap, whatever you end up with tends to work out okay? but if you feel ready for another dc and want one, then go for it cos there is nothing wrong with that gap. it's nice to have them close to grow up together, into the same things etc. also makes it a bit easy for you when they are both young and still both have a nap you get to have a rest and some peace and quiet, which you lose once they get to about 2, 2.5 or something like that so then you would get less downtime in the day so in some ways closer can be easier?

The World Health Org recommend 3 years. I have had different gaps between mine. 16 months being the smallest and I found it such hard work. They fight like cat and dog unlike a previous poster and we always put it down to the small gap. Also had a 4 year gap which was much easier.

There are pros and cons for all. A friend of mine had hers as close together as she could to "get the early years over with" but not sure how much you are able to enjoy 3 or 4 little one very close in age. My eldest is 15 youngest 2 so quite a range.

Suppose it also depends on how many children you would like and how old you are. Have a look on the larger parenting thread lots about spacing on there - although alot have 6 on there - not sure you are planning on that many??? :)

Exactly two years here.. Works great. But I agree with the poster who said that we would have adapted to anything else too..

I think there are millions of variables in the decision.. My children sometimes have to spend quite a lot of time just the two of them and being so close in age means they like the same games, books, films.. Easy peasy..
The younger one loves learning from his sister and she loves teaching him.. Also for DH and I as a couple, it was easier to have them close in age and now that they are 4 and 2 we can begin to look forward to doing lots of more exciting things as a family and.. Just the two of us..

i didnt know who reccomeneded three years!

how can they say that?

is that for abroad? or in general

I had 20 months between DC1 and DC2, then 20 months again between DC2 and DC3. It was very hectic in the beginning, but they are now all in school and the time just seems to have flown.

I've heard a lot of child psychiatrists recommend two and a half years..

I have 7 years in between mine and LOVE it. Im considering having a 3rd and the age gap will be under 2 years and its a scary thought lol. There are tons of pros and cons to every age gap and it depends what you want personally.

women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/families/article5525024.ecehere
this is interesting

your right child pyscholgists suggest less than 18 month or more than 3 years
for the well being of the children
and who recommned 3 years plus for maternal health, according to them you are likely to live longer with this gap better children very interesting indeed

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