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DS1 (9yo) said sorry, should I have apologised too?

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create · 20/02/2011 17:46

We were at the football, it was half-time, DS1, DS2 and their friend were out of their seats, larking about a bit.

I was talking to friend's father and didn't see exactly what happened, but there was some pushing and DS1 bumped the man in the seat in front. Man shouted at him to be careful. DS1 said sorry and all the boys sat down and behaved themselves after that.

DS1 was visibly upset to have been told off (good). I felt he'd been told, that he'd apologised and that the poor behaviour had stopped, so I didn't take any further action. If you were the bumped man, would you have expected me to also say sorry to you and/or take action against the boys?

I did talk to them on the way home about how inconsiderate it is to spoil another's enjoyment by their behaviour and made it clear that we won't be going again if the behaviour's repeated, but at the time, I felt DS1 showed remorse (and it may not have been his fault if he was pushed) but didn't feel it was appropriate to take further action in public. What do you think?

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shesparkles · 20/02/2011 17:49

I think your actions were absolutely fine. Your ds apologised with no prompting from you. All kids get embarrassed to be told off by someone they don't know, but by them apologising and sitting down and behaving, the telling off did the job. I can't think that any reasonable person should expect more.

Is there more to this? Did the man have a go at you or something?

Plumm · 20/02/2011 17:50

I think you handled it perfectly - DS did the bumping and apologised for his actions then you followed it up later by talking to him about it.

create · 20/02/2011 18:21

No, he didn't say anything, but I felt I was being glared at, but then he has a generally grumpy demeanor

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