weekends and routines etc

[suss]

My ds is now nine months and during the week we have our routine and by friday we are v happy with our lives - we sleep at nap times and we go to bed well, but.... The weekend dh is home and ds naps go out of the window and it takes me until wed or thurs to get everything back on an even keel just in time for the weekend. Also if my dh comes home early and ds has just gone to bed he wakes up and screams whereas if he comes home late ds sleeps like a dream. Dh says I am mad and his presence has no effect on ds but I think it does. Anybody else have similar experiences or am I as mad as a fish.

im a single mum, so not exactly the same, but when dd is at my mums, and is in bed (almost asleep), she runs to the front door the second she hears the keys, knowing its her grandpa. She then is hyper for the next two hours, encouraged by my dad, cause he misses her.

after that one night at mums (sat night), it took me til wed to get her back into the 7pm-7am sleep pattern. Now ive adjusted it slightly, so i get her to sleep later 8.30, but in her room for 8, and she lies in in the morning.

dd is nearly 3 btw

I found when ds was little he was always very unsettled at weekends. I think basically he just didn't like sharing my attention with dp.

These days we have a different problem - dp very kindly takes over a lot of the everyday jobs such as breakfast, nappies etc. However he is a lot more laid back than me and more indulgent, so ds is allowed to take as long as he wants over breakfast, is often still playing in his sleepsuit at 10.30 am. This is fine at the weekend but suddenly on Monday morning we have to get back to our routine and my god, does he protest. I have spoken to dp about it, but basically, if I want it done my way, I have to do it myself. At least I get a break at weekends so I'm trying not to complain!

so not quite as mad as a fish! dh doesn't really help at the weekend either he just sort of does what he wants to! But I can see that some help is a double edged sword! I left dh with ds for 20 mins on saturday in a cafe just so I could do some shoppping quickly, i got back ds had sick all over trousers and dh said have you any wipes here you can have him now! God forbid if I ever left ds with him for the whole afternoon!