Help! My son's not coping with year 7...

[titaniamalaka]

I feel so awful, my son is really struggling with year 7. He's been on report for 4 weeks now for loosing his school diary. He then lost the first report, 2nd, 3rd report, his school bag, pe kit, coat, rugby shools and keeps losing his lunch!

The school thought he was hiding it but they always turn up with perfect ticks and no negative comments from his teachers.

He appears to just be very forgettful or careless and it's affecting everything. I then get very angry and end up shouting at him and taking away privileges (pls note he never loses his mobile etc.)

Is he being careless? I feel so awful for losing my rag with him as its obviously a very difficult time for him. He's nearly 6', fully hairy and very sweaty so i thought puberty?

I also grounded him and feel i was a bit extreme but can i go back on that without seeming weak?

He sounds disorganised. Does he have a blazer pocket he can keep essential bits of paper in?

He's not dyspraxic is he?

He does sound very disorganised.

Could you drill into him, whenever he leaves a classroom to think of three things, and ensure they are always put into his bag:

Books
Planner
Pencil case

?

He needs to think 3 every single time he leaves a room, and check his bag after he has packed it to ensure that all 3 are in there.

He is very dissorganised.

He does have a blazer pocket and thats a good idea. He's ok at home but only with me reminding him constantly. He used to lose his shoes and had to countdown. Will def try the 3 idea.

I'm a teacher (no pressure there then) and i have 2 dyspraxic children in my class, he doesn't have any significant co-ordination problems but he is very very clumsy, his speech and understanding are fine. Will speak to my SENCO about it actually, good point!

I keep thinking i've done something wrong,.

My son's being tested for it, his speech is excellent, always has been. He gets very flustered if he's verbally given a small list of things to do though, he wasn't always like this.

It may be helpful for him to leave his shoes in the same place, like by the front door. The adjustment to senior school is really hard I think, it's nothing that you've done.

Could you leave a list of things he needs for school each day by the door so he can check it? Loopys suggestion is good.

Hi there. Are you sure he is losing/ forgetting his things? Just wondered if he is being bullied by someone taking his things
and maybe feels awful about telling?