I need to get a grip!

[mikimoo]

I have an 18 month old DS and just found out I am expecting my second in October. DH is absolutely thrilled as is everyone else out of the family and close friends we have told...and I am too but completely freaked out at the thought of having two monkeys to look after!

DS1 is generally a very happy smiley, cheeky little character but is very strong willed and been demanding pretty much since he was born. I am quite an angsty person in general and it isn't helped when I compare myself and my son to my SIL and her little girl who is so placid and easy to take everywhere. I know I need to get a grip and stop comparing myself to others. I worry about everything - from 'what shall we do today?' 'what if he cries out shopping?' to 'is he watching too much TV?' etc. I'm worried that I won't cope with two if things continue this way. Aargh!

God, even reading this I think I sound so pathetic. CAn someone give me a virtual shake please?!

congratulations!

try not worry about what other people think, it honestly does not matter. perhaps take some time to think about the kind of mum you would like to be to your ds and believe that you can be.

you sound lovely to me, trust yourself and your ds, and have some fun

Thanks for your kind words. I know I am an overanxious person anyway and this is just another symptom.

x

Hi, and congratulations!

I think you are experiencing the usual "omg I'm pregnant!" panic, and wondering how on earth you will cope.

I also had a demanding firstborn. Some babies are just made that way.

In my case, second time round was so much easier, and he was a much easier baby. Believe me, you are so much more relaxed with the second child - look forward to it and enjoy.xxx

Having two is a mixed bag. Managing two can be a challenge, but I found this was offset by the fact I was not as anxious about no 2 as I had been through it all before. And my first was easy and second a nightmare, but I still coped better than with my first!

Thank you all, I feel reassured! X