Bed wetting 7yo? here or health?

[katymac]

Couldn't decide so here goes

7yo DD was being bullied last year - we got it sorted
Was having problems at school (with work) - we got it sorted

She is still wetting the bed (since feb 2-4 times a week) It's very annoying to wash all the time

I don't want to restrict her drinking - but we need to do something

Star charts haven't worked (even with big bribes at the end)

Please help?

I am having the same prob with my nearly 7yo DS. Though he was dry for a long time and now wets the bed when he is worried about something. Only wets on week nights and I don't always know what is bothering him.
Some of the things we've tried are the bed alarm (borrowed one from my HV), star charts, waking him at night (that never worked 'cos he is heavy sleeper). My HV is now referring him to the school clinic.
Have you spoken with your HV? It is about this age that they will refer you for outside help.

Also the general advice is never to restrict drinks as they need to understand when bladder is full. If you restrict drinks their bladders adjust to how much they drink and they still wet.

My DS has his last drink at dinner time and always goes to the toilet just before bed.

My HV announced she only did under 5's

DD goes at bedtime and DH lifts her when he goes to bed - but she still wets and I think it is just before she wakes sometimes but others it is at 3 or 4 am

As she can be dry at night I think it's something that will stop of its own accord, given time. My ds1 was never dry at night and when he was 7 we were referred to an eneuresis clinic (if you search in archived threads with my chat name and eneuresis in the search boxes you will find 4 threads on it!) As your dd can be dry I think that it's less of a problem - hard work though.

Everything I've been told says that restricting fluid intake is not the way to go and can even make it worse - some children need to increase their bladder capacity and they do that by drinking more. There are various bladder irritants - squash (especially Ribena type drinks), orange juice, chocolate - so all of those are worth cutting out before bedtime - and just having water.

And really important is that you don't get cross/fed up at changing the bed (hard when you're tired!) I used to have a set of clean sheets next to the bed (actually once we had the alarm I had several - as he was wetting 3 or 4 times a night) so I didn't have to scrabble about at 2am finding some.

You could see your GP - they will refer once the child is 7 - an alarm may help (it did help my ds and he had never been dry at night). Good luck - and try not to let her know it's getting to you, she really can't help it.

Oh and one more thought - have you tried getting her to go to the loo when you go to bed? Some people disapprove of this as it's not training the child to hang on 'til morning - but it might give you a bit of a break and your dd some confidence after more dry nights.

X posted - you do take her to the loo at night. Helpful HV you have! Your GP will help.

Thanks - she won't go to GP

Someone (on here) suggested she might have worms so I might try that

And I may ring another HV in the morning

does she want to be dry? my ds was at the drs the other day and picked up a leaflet about bedwetting and gave it to me which is why I am now trying to be referred.
He doesn't want to go to the clinic though he wants me to go and then tell him all about it!!!

The alarm didn't help my ds he never woke with it.

Hadn't heard about having worms does that affect them then?

She is embarassed by wetting - but not really upset iyswim

It's just a nuisence

Foxinsock was talking about it being worms....it's up tonite something about 4 weeks til due & I've got worms

My dd wet on and off till she was 9. I went to a homeopath, and that coincided with her stopping, but not sure if the remedy speeded things up or not. It wasn't instant, but it stopped during the months after the remedy.

We did go to the eneurisis clinic once or twice, and really they just reassured me that we were doing the right thing.

I honestly felt it was a neurological immaturity in my dd, and she either grew out of it, or the homeopathic remedy speeded up this growing out of it.

HTH

p.S. When I was really fed up of washing sheets and duvets getting wet, I used sleeping bags and they were easier to wash and dry.

i use pampers bed mats over the top of the sheet so that when ds wets the bedding stays dry and i just throw away the bed mat. A bit expensive i know but so much easier than washing everything.