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overprotective sad mother!

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linzoid · 09/09/2003 15:10

My 4 yr old ds started school last week, so far he's only done half days. I have been pretty worried about school mainly because he still seems too young for it and also because he's being investigated for an immune deficiency (picks up everything) and i've got myself paranoid. He still wants to sleep alot of afternoons too. He came out today saying that he hated his teacher ( not too keen myself) and he didn't want to go to school again because they don't let him paint! he was soo upset. I went in the kitchen and cried myself! can't decide if i'm over reacting because i could be a bit depressed or what. Sorry might not be making much sense but needed to rant.

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Jenie · 09/09/2003 15:14

Rant away that's what the sites for. Painting is dd's favourite thing too, I hope that they let her do it at school. Obviously I understand that she'll only be able to do it at set times but as she went to pre-school she understands that.

Did your son go to pre-school? Dd has only recently turned 4 and she has to attend school full time as of this Thursday (her 1st day).

SissyGirl · 09/09/2003 15:15

I'm sure he'll settle in just fine. kids are resiliant

Was he in to nursery before?

ThomCat · 09/09/2003 15:44

Ohh, I don't know what to say to you, but you're not over-protective just a normal mum. Poor little thing, but he WILL be fine, just don't let him see you be sad and try and support him in an encoraging gentle way - you don';t need me to tell you that I know so I'll shut up and just send you a big hug {{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}}

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tabitha · 09/09/2003 16:05

linzoid,

you're not sad or overprotective at all. 4 is young to start formal education - I know it's common in this country but lots of other countries don't start children until they're six or seven. I'm sure your ds will settle in though. It'll take time but he'll be fine. As for the sleepiness, my ds is 6 now and would still happily have a nap in the afternoons - In fact he fell asleep on the childminders floor last week! - and when he started school last year he was even more tired than usual. Funnily enough, he seemed to start to get his energy back when he started full days, don't know why.

FairyMum · 09/09/2003 21:03

You are not over-protective! I had the same worries when my dd started school at 5. I thought she was too young and felt she was being robbed of careless childhood. She did settle in really well and enjoyed it from day one though.

I grew up in Sweden and started school at 7.To me the English school system seems to put a lot of pressure on kids from a very early age, but that's another thread

FairyMum · 09/09/2003 21:03

....or is it "carefree" childhood perhaps?

Jimjams · 09/09/2003 21:05

Send him to a Steiner school linzoid

Know how you feel though. My 4yo can't even talk and has to start school in 2 weeks time I do think children start too early in the UK, and when they're like ds1 and even more behind

twiglett · 09/09/2003 21:06

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judetheobscure · 09/09/2003 21:40

Is it an option to do some painting at home when he hasn't done it at school?

I'd be wary of his comment about hating the teacher. Children often say that kind of thing and could he possibly have picked up some vibes from you? However, if you're not happy with the teacher, perhaps you could talk to some other mums, see what they think? What is wrong with him/her?

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