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WWYD about toddler clinginess?

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belindarose · 08/02/2011 14:57

DD (18mo) is going through another 'clingy' phase and was just wondering if anyone had any tips to help her. I say a phase, she's nearly always like this I suppose, but particularly so at the moment. Won't tolerate anyone other than me (and childminder, two days a week). If anyone at playgroups so much as looks at her, she shouts 'no' and runs to me. She talks about daddy all day, but once he's home she refuses to be with him. DH works long hours so she often doesn't see him before bed and just for a little while in the morning. She cried the other day because 'dadda gone' when we got home (he'd gone to work).

She's been with the childminder for six months and that's going really well. Family all live a long way away, so we see them infrequently but for days at a time. She's alright with the sensible ones (MIL, DM) who let her settle and get comfortable before they go in for cuddles etc.

Doesn't help me that some family and friends think I've 'caused' this by my breastfeeding and sling wearing. I don't listen, of course! Any ideas about how to get her to be more content around others? I've made her sound horrible, she's great really and can be really sociable and smiley. Just wants it to be me and her at the moment, and it mostly is.

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belindarose · 08/02/2011 19:17

I suppose teeth could be the main culprit?

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Choufleur · 08/02/2011 19:18

When she runs to you, say at playgroup because someone has looked at her,what do you do?

If you do leave her with your DH is she ok once you've gone?

belindarose · 08/02/2011 21:02

Totally fine when I do leave her with DH or if he takes her out. It feels horrible for him, that she cries/fusses with him when I am around. Makes him all the more reluctant to try I suppose.

With other people, I think I usually pick her up and carry on talking to them. She sticks her thumb in her mouth for a few sucks and then wants to be off playing again.

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Choufleur · 08/02/2011 21:41

TBH I wouldn't pick her up. I would bend down to her to reassure her but not pick her up as it's a bit like you are rescuing her from something, even though it's not really scary.

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