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Suggestions for Mum moving closer

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MrsDandBaby · 08/02/2011 13:37

Am looking for suggestions for making a smooth transition for living near my mum again. I know this isn't the biggest problem in the world but am hoping someone else might have gone through this and have some tips.

My mum is planning on moving closer to us (within 15mins drive) in time for DS1's birth in May (also have DD1, 2 in May). The move will also bring her closer to my brother, who doesn't have any kids yet and doesn't really do the family thing.

This will be lovely and am looking forward to it.

However, DH and I have been living miles away from any family (3hrs from his, 2hrs from mine) for the past 8 years and have got used to planning when to see family and living our own life.

I guess I'm worried that my mum will be a long way from her own social circle and will take a while to make new friends etc so will be with us a lot of the time. She & my DH get on ok, but I can see it might become a bit overkill after a while, and I am used to having time by myself with DD. We've never really clashed over parenting styles as she's not spent that much time alone with DD but I think this might be a bit of an issue in the longer run.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make this change to our lives easier?

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pippop1 · 08/02/2011 18:27

I think you have to encourage her to join clubs and societies and make new friends so that she's not dependant on you.

Onlyaphase · 08/02/2011 18:42

I think you need to have a chat with her asap about her expectations when she has moved near you.

Far better to find out now that she expects to see you 3 evenings a week, for Sunday lunch and Saturday shopping every week and to spend all day Monday and Thursday with you. If you were thinking along the lines of Mon and Wed afternoons, then you really do need to adjust both of your expectations now, or not make the move.

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