What parenting style?

[SecondMrsS]

So I've been reading up on parenting styles and have done a couple of quizs etc... it would seem I am 'Authorative' which I reckon a high percentage of parents probably are. Most of my friends I would say..

Has anyone else looked in to this?

Do you think you and your partner have the same parenting style? what is the effect if not? My DSDs mum is definietly 'permissive' and although naturally my DP is authorative I would say he vears in to autocratic often in order to counteract DSD's mother's 'permissivenes', which is fairly extreme.

Would this have a negative effect on DSd...? or do the two styles (with some of my 'authorative' parenting mixed in!) even each other out...

It just got me thinking because while I was vaguely aware I and others have a 'parenting style', i have never analysed it..

Thoughts?

Ha ha just me that's interested then hey?

Must post something more contentious next time

This really interests me :)

I'm very much into attachment parenting whereas DH is polar opposite (old school). I think its a good blend for DD...although sometimes explosive for me and DH!

Where did you read the quizzes?

I dunno, I think everyone has things they are strict on and things they aren't, so it's not that easy to pigeonhole. For example, I don't mind the kids making mess (as long as they make some kind of effort to help tidy up later), don't mind running around, jumping on the sofa etc but strict on saying please and thank you, strict on bedtime. My friend is v strict on cleanliness, no running in the house, no jumping on the sofa etc, but still cuddles her 3yo to sleep, lets him go to bed when he wants, gives him milk/food in the night if he wakes. So which one of us is 'permissive'?

hmm, not sure what I am. I have standards/rules which I expect to followed, like waiting for everyone to finish eating before getting down from the table, no aggression at all, bedtime routine etc, but I am quite relaxed about other things.

Where did you find the quizzes?

putthekettleon I think from what ive read you would be authorative i.e. not enforcing rules which have no point and allowing your children to develope their own understanding of themselves whilst teaching basic boundaries of behaviour i.e. the please and thank you nad consistent bedtime. Your friend woul dbe permissive.. I think

The quizzes were:

here

here

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here

Had a look at the quizzes. I am authorative straight across the quizzes. Would be interested to see if anyone thinks they are anything else.

I know what you mean... you almost have to get someone else to do the quiz for you!

Interesting doing those quizzes - came out authoritative across the board also. Would be interesting to know what proportion of people got stats for each "type" of parenting.