SON TALKS ABOUT IMAGINERY FRIEND

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Hoping someone can help. For the past 5 years my son has been talking to an imaginery friend. At first I asked him who he is talking to and he just kept saying to myself. Then 3 months after him talking to himself he started talking about an imaginery friend. Not to us but to himself. Like for example he would say come and sit over here and are you listening to me. He would also ask questions to this imaginery friend of his and wait for a reply and answer his questions as well. Hope that makes sense. Anyway about 1 year ago he got up in the night to go toilet. Usually he gets up and goes on his own but this time he called for me to take him. So I did and he insisted on me waiting outside for him. Very unlike him as passage light was on. As he came out he said to me mind my friend standing by the door. Completely spooked me out but put him back to bed. As I left to go to bed I could hear him again talking and answering to this imaginery friend of his. Then 6 months after that he was upstairs in his room playing. Daughter was playing in her room and my son told her to play with him in his room. As I went upstairs to put away some clothes my daughter said to me that my son told her about his new friend. My son then stood up and said to me look mummy he is there behind you looking at you. I said that no-one was there. That night my daughter went toilet and as I put her back to bed she turned to the top of the stairs and said look mummy xxxx friend is there. tell him to go away. Any advice please.

I have a 10yo ds and have several nephews who have just passed that stage/are just coming up to 10. Imo this is an age where they are very aware of what other boys their age do and want to fit in with the crowd and seem grown-up. So while they might well have an imaginary friend, they would ime tend to keep it to themselves.

my youngest dd has a lot of imaginary friends, they are not people but animals, and at last count there were about 15 of them, at times she expects me to join in, which I do, so if you pass a strange lady with a 7 (nearly 8) year old nattering to nothing, or chasing down the road (it'll be after Edward the monkey again) it's me. I wouldn't worry about it, maybe as suggested they are seeing if they can creep you out, I don't find it worrying but then I am usually being asked to prepare a birthday tea for Ganger the otter, strange thing is that I thought otters liked fish but she/he prefers jaffa cakes just like my dd! Maybe ask your ds about his friend and try and gently find out more, could there be maybe friendship problems at school so his imaginary friend is his support? As for ghosts, who knows, kids are supposed to be more sensitive to those sort of things, depends on the day what I think about the possibility, sorry I can't help but I'm sure it's nothing to worry about

I had a raft of imaginary friends when I was a child, up to the age of about 11-12... i guess when puberty kicked in.

I remember being acutely aware of my imagination failing - all the favourite games (I had a wide range of imaginary scenarios with myself as hero - like a TV series) stopped being fun, my imaginary friends fading. I knew I was just growing up but I grieved.

Let your poor son enjoy it while he can.

Ghost? FFS!

So long as your DS doesn't have a problem with it, you needn't either. Of course there are spirits, but they're not all malevolent. Or this could be a straightforward imaginary friend; it doesn't matter much.
SGB, live and let live. No one's shoving woo at anyone else, we're all entitled to an opinion, especially about things as contentious as spirits and the afterlife. Each to his own, innit?

i had imaginary horses at that age. i used to get up really early every morning and spend hours mucking them out and feeding/ riding them. my avourite was my beautiful palamino horse i also had a white analucian horse and dapple horse