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Love lo but don't want him near me for a while

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bumbly · 05/02/2011 23:03

is that normal

fed up of his whinging, rattiness, rudeness adn etc and etc

so on a grudge since thursday and luckily hubby taking him off me for a while

have really screamed at him and slapped him on bum due to his behaviour but now have given up disci[lining

told him so and he said won't have mummy..answered yes to mummy but not one that will teach you anything as he is so cantacerous and negative to anything nice i do to him

mean i know but is exactly how i feel

everything!!!! is a battle with him

anyone ever felt like this?

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bumbly · 05/02/2011 23:08

3 1/2 tear old lovely but whinging and uncooperative at evrything

even teacher said so

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celestinelass · 05/02/2011 23:21

There were days when my DD was 2-3 yrs old that I absolutely loathed her.

She was highly destructive and broke or ruined every possession.......but breaking her hamster on the ceiling was a particular low point.

She's now 15, turned out good, doing well at school, seems well balanced and happy.....:) We have no pets now ;)

Getting breaks when you feel like this is vital. Don't beat yourself up.....it's totally normal.

spurs12345 · 05/02/2011 23:23

You dont say how old your son is but it sounds like you could have PND get some help for it from the drs. Its good that you have your husband to take care of him. Your son senses that you dont like him thats why he acts up for you. As for the screaming and the slapping the sooner you get help the better as this is no way to treat you little boy who looks up to you.

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bumbly · 06/02/2011 00:18

thanks and glad for support

really worried as feel am ruining him psycologically..by givinghim no love whatsoever now and actually quite the opposite...

but...having said that...i can't stop feeling what i feel and that i am very cross and upset with him

yes i do tell him i don't want to speak to him at the mo but i do stress it is because he has been very unreasonable

i only go like this when his behavious is as so - i don't go moody for no reason

he has been unreasonable and hubby agrees kuckily though he also says i am being very harsh and childish but can see why..he has been a little pest

but i really hate how been nasty to me and pushes me away and how i can't ask him to do anything with regarding pooing in potty at night and not in nappy

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bumbly · 06/02/2011 00:19

my boy does not look up to me - never has btw!

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LoopyLoopsPoopaScoop · 06/02/2011 00:23

Please ask for some help from your HV or GP. Do you think perhaps he is acting like this because you're not showing him consistent love? If you scream at him and smack him, he will be scared and confused, and will probably scream and smack back. You need to look for help to see if you do have PND or if there is anything anyone can do.

:)

LoopyLoopsPoopaScoop · 06/02/2011 00:24

And, he's only little. It's never Ok to tell him you don't want to speak to him. He's not being unreasonable, he's being a child. Please try and see this from his perspective. You need to get help. Fast.

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bumbly · 06/02/2011 00:25

and i stress smacks have only bene far and few between just to calm him from his hysterics ...on bum and nowhere else

small smacks

hv useless here

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LoopyLoopsPoopaScoop · 06/02/2011 00:28

Have you tried your GP? Do you think you might be depressed? The other thing to talk to the GP about might be parenting classes, they should be able to give you some advice at least.

tigana · 06/02/2011 00:43

Normal to be fed up to back teeth with your child for an hour, or a morning, or a whole day maybe... but not 2-3 days solid.

Usually they manage to say or do something that reminds you how much you love them - even when you simultaneously want to scream at them.

Is it just your ds who is 'too much' for you at moment? Wonder if feeling overwhelmed or trappped by 'it all'? In which case - trip to GP might be worthwhile.

(speaking as someone who eventually went to GP when DS was 3 and a half...)

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bumbly · 09/02/2011 10:11

but what did the gp do?

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