Do 3.3year old and 11 months old play together?

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Not really sure wether I'm expecting too much or wether it's typical behaviour for DS's age...

DS is 3.3 years and his baby sister is coming up to 11 months and has just started crawling (maybe at the root of problem I think)

He has always been very kind to her, lent her his toys, put her music on in the car etc. However, since she has started crawling he's been very aggressive towards her (though sure he'd not hurt her). He'll always be watching her and shouts "That's not a toy" or similar at the drop of a hat, and woe betide her if she finds one of his toys! He also gets right in her face and growls is the only way I could descibe it. He's been doing this growling thing (teeth clenched, head shaking. I think it's his way of showing he's angry) for a while but never at her.

What really breaks my heart is to watch DD's little face so happy that she now has the means to go to her beloved brother but he seems to hate it that she can, if that meakes sense. He just won't play or even share the same space as her now.

So, long post, but is this typical for his age? will it get better? will DD be affected by it, or will she not remember anything? doesn't seem to bother her as she usually laughs, but I'm a olympic-standard worrier!

Soundn familiar but ds was a bit older when dd was that age (3 yrs 5 months between them) We had to put his "precious" toys either on a table or in his room (and keep her away)and designated soem that he had pretty much outgrown as shares for them both to play with. Don't tolerate aggression though and try to anticipate such incidents and suggest he moves his game if he doesn't want her interference.

By about 18 months-2 she took a more positive interest in his games and began to role play as directed and they have played reasonably cooperatively since (now 4 and 7).

can you encourage DS to take charge of what kind of toys DD is allowed to play with?

with my two DS was responsible for making sure his sister didn't get hold of any small toys that she could choke on .. I taught him to swap them for a big toy (although he was about a year older)

I think the responsibility for them helps them play better as they get older

That's what I've been doing - up till now he was very good at finding toys for her - even go into his room to dig stuff out. We've done a special box for him to put his toys in and everything else is in his bedroom.

I guess i'll just have to ride it out, maybe he just needs to get used to the fact that she moves now (it's causing me to re-adjust, I know that!)

I just want everyone to love each other!!!!

It's getting worse now - he very nearly hit her with a toy tractor . She thought it was a game and was laughing away.

Just don't know how to tackle this, i'd expected rivalry when she was born but thought we were safe 11 months later.

At the moment, when he tells her not to do something that she can do (like play with her toys, or my skirt) I do the 2 warnings and naughty corner and if it looks like he's going to hurt her its straight to the corner, no warnings. My mum thinks I should put him in her playpen until he feels like he is ready to be a big brother so may try that too.

Was just really hoping someone would come along and say they've had similar and have some tips? You are all soooooo wise!