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Should I say something to the teacher about this

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heatblast · 03/02/2011 14:39

Ds aged 10 started a new school a month ago and has settled well and has been enjoying it.
2 days ago a new boy came to the school and is in ds's class.
This boy has started to call ds shaun the sheep as my ds's name is sean.
All just daftness I know and not really bad name calling.
Ds has been called this before by the odd one or two children and although he isn,t keen on the name he has laughed this off.
However this new lad according to ds is continually doing it and in my ds's words he only stops for a breather.
Ds says he follows him around on the playground calling him it and because the lad sits on ds's table in class he is doing there all of the time as well.
I have told ds to ingnore him but ds says its difficult because this lad is always there and follows him about.
I have told ds to laugh it off but again ds says it don,t work he still does it.
I have also told ds to not let him see that its upsets him and the lad will probably get bored of it eventually.
I know its starting to wear ds down and I have told him to try and not be too sensitive about things but he gets so angry when we are trying to give him advice on how to deal with it.
At the same time I am sure that it would get on anybodys nerves eventually so I do sympathise with him.
What should I do.
There is nobody else joining in with this lad at the moment anyway and nobody joins him in following ds around the playground to do it ds says the lad is on his own.

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heatblast · 03/02/2011 14:49

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Gonzo33 · 03/02/2011 14:50

I don't really know what to say but didn't want to read and run.

Maybe this boy is just really rubbish at making friends. Maybe he will just go and annoy someone else soon, or maybe your son needs to tell him to get lost or speak to a teacher and see what they say.

How irritating!

heatblast · 03/02/2011 14:51

Ds tells me that the teacher has heard him doing this in class and has told the boy to be quiet and the boy has said its just a joke.

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Carrotsandcelery · 03/02/2011 14:55

I would have a very quiet word with the teacher - just let her know that it is beginning to upset your ds and you don't want things to escalate.
The new boy will probably get on better too if he can find a more constructive thing to do in the playground. This can't be helping him to make friends and settle in either.

heatblast · 03/02/2011 16:15

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OffToNarnia · 03/02/2011 16:46

I agree have a quiet word with the teacher. It is possible your ds may not want you to do this but you could be very discreet. It is good that no one else is joining in. It is a difficult call to make.. mm not sure.. horrid for your son..

Greeninkmama · 03/02/2011 17:49

Yes definitely have quiet word with teacher. I don't think it is as trivial as it sounds actually - imagine someone saying the same thing over and over and over again to you. Very annoying and possibly bullying behaviour,

bubbles12 · 03/02/2011 19:30

Another vote for yes have a quiet word with the teacher to get her to put a stop to it in the classroom - would possibly do it without your sons knowledge.
I think your son has handled it really well -if he can either laugh it off or just tell the other boy how boring it is becoming, hopefully it will stop.

Eglu · 03/02/2011 19:32

Agree with the others. If it is starting to really annoy your DS then the teacher needs to know.

SandStorm · 03/02/2011 19:34

If I were your son's teacher I would want to know this so I could nip it in the bud.

pozzled · 03/02/2011 19:35

Yes, have a quick word. Don't make it into a big deal but let the teacher know your DS is starting to get upset. The teacher is obviously already aware of it as he/she has commented on it.

Pleiades45 · 03/02/2011 20:08

Talk to the teacher, express your concerns, mention that it could be seen as bullying and directly ask what the school's procedure is on bullying. Maybe ask for a copy of the procedure. I would stress all a long that it would be better for all concerned if he/she was able to manage the situation without it having to be escalated. I know you don't want it to escalate but I think you need to make it understood that if there isn't an improvement soon you are prepared to follow through. Otherwise I fear you might be brushed off too.

singalongamumum · 03/02/2011 20:11

I agree that a quiet word with the teacher should easily solve the problem

tomhardyismydh · 03/02/2011 20:11

I would encourage your ds to talk to the teacher about this before you do. At 10 he should be able to discuss this with the teacher him self.

If that fails I would then have a quiet word with the teacher.

MammyG · 04/02/2011 20:52

Def tell the teacher - for both boys sake! The new boy is obviously having trouble settling in and is going about it the wrong way. If he is not helped soon he will make your son miserable and have a rep for himself that will make school life difficult for him. It could become something more.

skybluepearl · 05/02/2011 08:15

i think you need to tell the teacher exactly how often the boy is saying it and that he is doing it to upset your son - despite saying otherwise. It is bullying.

ilythia · 05/02/2011 09:07

I have a name that lends itself to a well known children's song. ONe boy used to sing the song at me, every day, over and over.
I told the teachers but he just did it when they weren't listenbing as the telling off wasn't very 'strict' iyswim.
I cracked after about a year and smacked him in the face with my violin case. Got in all kinds of trouble satisfying though it was

I woudl definately tell the teacher but make sure you say it is bullying, and how upset your son is, my mum just said it was annoying me so they didn't take it too seriously.

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