Niece

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Not parenting but

Niece is 8, a nice girl who comes round once a week

However if I ask her a question the chances are I will get a stupid answer of her. Like today I know she went to town to change a toy that was broken. What sort of toy was it I ask her, response, don't know, which shop did you buy buy it from, response, factory - no such shop exists under that name locally.

It is always like that.

How do I respond to her? if it was my DD I would go mad if she treated people like that, sister defends her.

It was obviously of no real consequence to her. Have you tried asking more relevant questions - have you seen any films recently, was it good ? How are you enjoying x club ? Did you visit x over Christmas ? Lots of kids won't talk about things or to people who don't seem to be of immediate interest . Why are you so concerned ?

LizS, surely whether or not lots of kids do it, it isn't good manners - 8 year olds are capable of holding 'polite' (ie boring) conversation when required; is it really doing them any favours to think they needn't?

however, OP, don't know that you can do much if her mother thinks it's fine to act like that.

LIZS thanks for your answer

I get it all the time of her, whatever the subject. Sometimes she will tell me she does not know what I mean, but she does. She just comes in gets on my laptop and plays games.

Not concerned, just annoying, especially with other people she is not like that. wAs at her house when her mum's friend came over and she was chatty, offering this woman chocolates.

Yet she keeps asking if she can stay over night and if she can go on holiday with use.

She doesn't do this with DD and far less with ex

Does not concern me but annoys me.

"She just comes in gets on my laptop and plays games."

I think that is worse tbh, that she feels she can take liberties in your home tbh.

Your house, your rules, I would not allow her the laptop or games after such rudeness.