My son B?s birthday & that of my partner?s son T are only 4 days apart, with a year difference between them. Last year there was no problem I had a family get together for my son with my partner & her children, while my son B attended T?s party.
At the weekend l told my son B that T was having a party, involving a ?poo hunt?, a sort of ?whose poo? of the local wildlife in the woods, B is looking forward to it. I had previously discussed this with my partner, who was happy for B to attend. No problem.
Both children are in the same school, but not in the same class, although sometimes the 2 classes are combined. It is normal for the children to invite all their class plus special friends.
The problem arose last evening when I attended a meeting at school. I re-introduced myself to one of the governors, who I had met at a previous meeting 18months ago; he had some good ideas & wanted to give him my support. His daughter is in the same class as my son, so unwittingly he mentioned my son?s birthday party, which I knew nothing about (no surprise there)! I made light of it & we went on to discuss some of the points he had made, hopefully saving some embarrassment.
Here?s the problem, my son B?s party is the day before T?s, & B?s mother has not invited my partner?s children; probably as she does not want me knowing about it. My partner is now unlikely to invite B as she feels he will be excited about his own party & will spoil T?s party. I don?t blame her as she is trying to protect her son.
Any advice on how to try to sort this out, as it seems my ex is unwilling to put our son?s wishes before her own.