There's been an incident at my daughters club, and I'm not sure what to do now?

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, my 6 year old daughter has just started an after school club that she really enjoys.
There was an incident the other week when a boy was sent out of the class. I saw him being spoken to in the hall and wondered what it was all about.
Being nosy, I asked my daughter what he'd done wrong and she said "he showed me his privates and grabed my head." I was quite supprised but wasn't sure if she was telling the truth as she has a vivid imagination and SEN's. I thought I'd have a word with the teacher next time.
The next week she refused to go though. She got very upset saying she was worried he'd be there and do it again.
i tried to phone the teacher several times, then decided to phone another mum that I know and ask if her daughter saw anything. She said she didn't.
Anyway, the teacher phoned today to say that the boy did start to pull is trousers down, then another teacher saw him and whisked him outside. She said that was all that happened and it wasn't even directed at my daughter.
She also said "and could you please not tell all the other parents in future before speeking to me." I told her it was only one, as I wanted to see if anyone else saw.
I'm not sure what to do now, she's due to go again soon so should I just tell her not to make things up and just take her there anyway even if she's crying? It's such a shame as she was really enjoying it. I've also paid for the term and it's not at all cheep.
What would you do?

Just don't mention it to her and take her along.

If you believe the teacher - and there doesn't seem to be any reason not to just don't mention it again.

If your DD says she doesn't want to go talk about all the positives and see how you go but there doesn't seem to be any reason not to take her.

Yes, I'll just take her along and hopefully she'll be o.k.

The teacher should have told you herself, on teh night!

how bloody dare she tell you off for talking to other parents.

She is clearly upset by what happened and teh teacher should not be making light of it.

If this is a school run club i would be speaking to the head and making her aware of how very unhappy you are with the way it was handled.

whatever you do please do not tell her not to make things up. she hasn't! she said he exposed himself and the teacher confirmed this whilst trying to make it sound less than what your DD described.
Teacher has good reason to cover up just how serious it was, your DD doesn't.

It wasn't a club run by a school, it's a private dance club. He is the only boy in the class.

I did wonder if she was just playing it down as the way my DD described it sounded very realistic. She's told several people and the story dosn't change. I'm still not 100% sure she was making it up.

The head teacher of the accadamy told me that this boy is having a very close eye on him which is why he was takn out so quickly before anything happened.

the dropping of trousers doesn't have to mean anything awful, just that he is at an age where toilet humour is funny.

But the fact yor DD has been upset by it means it needs to be taken seriously.

I would quite frankly be furious that the teacher didn't tell me adn that i had to hear it from DD

I think he's 7. My daughter also loves a bit of toilet humor and if that did happen as the teacher discribed, I'd imagine she'd find it funny.

Also, if she has been making a mountain out of mole hill, I don't want her to get a telling off when she next goes. The head teacher said "I know she's very sensitive and I'll ask the teacher to keep a close eye on her too."

I'd play it down and keep taking her. How is she finding the school, I think she moved schools last year? Hope it's going well for her.

Your dd is describing two separate incidents I would think. He may have grabbed her head at some point but the trouser incident probably didn't involve her specifically. But she obviously doesn't feel comfortable around him. Can you stay for the next session and see what happens? Good luck.

She has gone off today with her Dad. She seems happy enough. She could well be describing 2 seperate things, I didn't think of that.

Acanthus- Thank you, she isn't at school now. She's being home educated. She is doing really well, much happier and more relaxed. She actually enjoys her learning now. We are all much happier as a family now.