3 month old doesn't seem to like me anymore

[Underachieving]

My youngest is now 14/15 weeks.

3 weeks ago I was rushed into hospital unexpectedly. I was away from the house for a week and couldn't see the baby at all because of infection control policy on the ward. Then when I did get home I was mostly useless and so lots of friends tooks turns to come round and give baby her bottles/baths/cuddles if Daddy was at work because I couldn't even hold her (abdominal surgery).

We've been back to normal pretty much for about 10 days now but baby doesn't seem to like me anymore. She seems to only like Daddy.

Daddy gets all the laughs, Daddy gets all the gurgles and coos and I mostly get looked at and then she takes a deep breath and screams.

He and I had a row tonight and I said I was sick of it, she hates me. He said she's an ickle perfect wee baby and it's all me. I know it's not me, but of course he only sees how she is with him.

When it's just her and I she opens her eyes, sees it's me and launches straight into full-lung-capacity screaming. 10 days doesn't sound like long but when you're the one at home all day it's forever.

How did this happen, and more importantly how do I get my gorgeous little girl back?

Time! It must all have been very confusing for her and now she´s probably just not sure where she stands. She knows you´re her wonderful mummy but then strange things happened and all of a sudden you weren´t there and then weren´t your normal self. She just needs time to work out that you are still you and it´s not going to happen again. But I can understand that for you it feels like such a long time. It is so hurtful feeling rejected by your child - somehow it releases emotions you never knew you had! But she needs you more than anyone - because of this situation. I´d say just muster all the will you have and keep being loving and normal no matter what - she´ll be keeping a keen eye on it and once she has made sure you´re her mum just as you always have been, then you´ll ´have her back´. My dh´s mum had to go into hospital for a month when he was five month´s old. His father and aunt said, now looking back, it wasn`t a big deal for the baby - more for his mum. I can imagine that totally! Get well soon and look after yourself.

So sorry this has happened to you, but Simic is right, your DD will come 'back' to you in time. You just have to keep going as if everything is fine and it will come.

It won't help that your DH won't see it, but he probably wants to put a positive spin on it. My DH will often gloss over issues like this as though positive thinking will mean the problme isn't there. But... in a way this might be the best approach