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so tired

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samalexholly · 23/01/2011 23:37

I am a mother of a 5 month old baby and a 4 year old son. the problem is im so tired from getting up in the night to feed and change my daughter that wen the mornin comes to get my son up and ready for school i am very tired and snappy :(.then during the day im either sleeping alot or just cant concentrate and forgetful to the point where i feel im letting my son down because im never in the mood. do many other mothers feel this way or is it just me? :(

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frenchfancy · 24/01/2011 07:18

All the time. Not much help I know - sorry

cornonthecob · 24/01/2011 17:53

oh its so tough, this is the reason why i hesitate a third child is having to do the school run and night feeds...

bumping this thread maybe someone has some good advise how they do it?

in the meantime do you know any other school mums that live nearby that could take your ds to school a few mornings a week and you can possibly do the pick up?

i also get my ds to dress himself in his uniform as soon as he wakes which ticks one thing of the list.

sleep deprivation will get better as baby gets older... hang in there i sympathise, my ds2 was a terrible sleeper, he's 2.3 now and still has his moments i.e this morning 5.30am!

belledechocchipcookie · 24/01/2011 17:54

Have you been to see your GP? You could be anaemic.

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samalexholly · 24/01/2011 20:54

I was anemic with both my children but wen i came out of hospital with my daughter they told me i did,nt need my iron tablets anymore, thats a good point though, i will have to see my GP if it does not improve. my mum n dad live near by so they help when they can however my mum has recently had cancer and is in middle of her chemo so i dont want to be a burden to them. other than that i have no one else to take him as my husband is at work. i do try to get my son to get himself dressed in the morning but because he is so lively and i am so tired we clash, i loose count of how many times i have to say to him GET DRESSED! i would love to know where he gets all that energy from lol!

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peasizedbladder · 24/01/2011 22:11

i struggle with two kids also when sleep deprived, and can't help but think that others either lie about coping well, or simply have babies that sleep better than mine!

a friend recently told me she dresses her daughter whilst she is still asleep in the mornings in order to avoid that battle. not sure that would work with a 5 yr old though??!!

belledechocchipcookie · 25/01/2011 19:11

Little kids like things to be a game. I used to 'race' ds to get dressed in the mornings by seeing who could do it first. This worked really well and saved so much stress. Boys also want to feel useful. This will help aswell, they feel so proud when they do something helpful.

I'd pop back to the GP, it sounds like you have so much going on, there could be a bit of post natal depression here as well. It's nothing to be ashamed of and can so easily be sorted.

sneakapeak · 26/01/2011 09:39

sam Please please please ask them to check your thyroid. It is VERY common to have thyroid problems after birth.

Important - tell them to check TSH and antibody levels - write that down because they may just check one and not the other and thats how it goes undiagnosed.

You sound just like me after having my 2nd. Symptoms are, Brain fog, concentration problems, problems with short term memory, severe tierdness and getting up is like coming round from a coma, constipation, sometimes - thining hair, slow heart rate, tight chest, dizziness, tingling hands, twitching in the eyes.

You don't have to have all of it obviously but if most of that sounds like you, please get that checked out.

sneakapeak · 26/01/2011 09:43

Oh and sometimes weight gain or unable to loose weight.

sneakapeak · 26/01/2011 10:01

I've just thought of another , anxiety, a feeling of dread especially in the evening when you are tierd/sitting down.

Im done, honest!

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samalexholly · 26/01/2011 14:27

sneakpeak i think you may have made my mind up for me :) yes i have had..
brain fog [big time]
concentration problems
short term memory (really bad)
severe tiredness
dizziness
non of the rest. however i lost all my baby weight after both my kids almost instantly and cant seem to put any back on at all. no matter what i eat or how much i eat i dont put weight on and people just assume i dont eat properly but i do not feel this is the case. i wonder if this is a thyroid problem?
thankyou for the info it has given me something to look into

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samalexholly · 26/01/2011 14:29

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samalexholly · 26/01/2011 14:31

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putthekettleon · 26/01/2011 16:43

bless you, DD2 is 7 months and has only just started sleeping through the nights, and I am only just starting to feel human again. I remember being so tired the room would start spinning as soon as I closed my eyes, and I would often get dizzy for no reason.

Can't you use the time your son is at school to rest/sleep? Can you lie down with DD in bed and nap while she naps? Or will she fall asleep on the way home from the school run and then you can get some more sleep?

Basically - sleep whenever you can and don't worry about housework! And get your thyroid checked, a friend of mine lost loads of weight after pregnancy (lucky her I thought...) and it turned out to be a thyroid problem.

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samalexholly · 26/01/2011 20:57

i try to sleep wen my son is at school but no matter how much i sleep i still dont wake up properly.
i feel like im permanently daydreaming and anything anyone says to me does not regester.
today i had enough, id burnt the dinner and ended up in tears so i have now booked an oppointment to see a gp on monday. it cant go on like this. my husband is currently off work (holidays) for 2 weeks and i have been avoiding looking after the kids because he is there and that makes me feel guilty.
i love my daughter to bits but for some reason i can only hold her for about half an hour then i want someone else to have her. as soon as my son came home from school and i knew i had to sort out his dinner and then feed my daughter my brain went to mush and then my husband took over. this is not me! im sure somethings not right, i have been like it since my daughter was born but this last week it has somehow got worse.
my family say i must have left a part of my brain at the hospital lol!
oh well lets see what the doc says

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