Playdate question

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DD (6) has been invited to go bowling and out for lunch on Sunday with a friend from school. I've said she can go and she was so excited to be asked!

I'm inclined to send her with some money as I don't expect them to pay for everything - is this the done thing?

DD's never properly gone out like this before so unsure of etiquette!

yes, i would make sure she has some money just in case!

I think it's polite to send some money but wouldn't really expect anyone to take it - would think it was more usual to return the invitation over the next few weeks. Hope she has a great time!

I usually put some money in a purse which I tell the friend's mum she has or ask her to look after. Makes it clear then that I don't expect them to treat, but leave the decision up to them. Sometimes dd will come home with the money untouched, sometimes not.

I would offer money to the mother saying that you know how expensive these things can be. It's then down to the mother to take it or refuse it and you'll know where you stand.

I don't have a 6 year old (yet!) but I don't think I would give mine money.

Was thinking I would send £10 - would that be enough?

We are taking the friend with us in a couple of weeks time to see the Wallace & Gromit movie but they're only newly friends so haven't done anything together before apart from a few playdates at our house after school!

Ohhh, the stress!

That was my other worry that dd would lose it if she took it with her so perhaps I should tell the friend's mum when she collects her.

£10 sounds plenty.

You don't want to have to start matching expensive treats!

I would offer the money to the mum when you drop off DD, in my experience she will probably refuse it and then you say oh well its my turn next time. I wouldn't pass the stress of this onto DD who then has to decide when and if to get her purse out.

All far more sensible than me about this. Just wasn't sure what the done thing was. They're picking dd up so will offer it to her then. Knowing dd she would forget to offer the money or expect it to all be for sweets!