I am new to this but need some help and advice. I have 2 daughter's, one at Uni and the other at home ( 17 ). She found school impossible and kept leaving ( 6 secondary ) and then has gone downhill with everything that involves making an effort. She started college and did not turn up. She was offered a job and did not go. She is a bright girl and has had a lucky childhood but she tends to lose friends easily and now won't go into the town to look for jobs or anything unless she is with a friend as she has had people threatening her. I feel she is making herself a prisoner at home. She does go out at weekends. I am a nurse and feel I have a fair understanding of her health issues but not of her mental status. I work part time and it is a strain to think she is unable to have the confidence to go out and make something of herself. She is loved to bits and I do not wrap her in cotton wool. She had a chance to go to secretarial college in London but it meant staying with her Dad so she gave up on that. I feel a residential course would be of some use as she has no qaulifications and she would have built in support there. She spends most of her time at home. I am fairly outgoing but I do try to sympathise. Should I be firm or not? Should I give her an ultimatum? Your support would be very much appreciated.