Me again, star charts/incentives/pocket money

[IAmReallyFabNow]

I would like ideas for star charts, how many stickers is fair to get a reward of some kind, do you take things off for bad behaviour and is there anything else I can try?

My kids are 5, 7 and 9 and the 9 year old is under the illusion it is up to him to tell his siblings what to do .

That is how ours work,

Each star earns 50 pence if they reach 5 or more stars in a week they get double, stars get deducted and if one week there is a minus they have to make it up the following week.

DD1 is on about -£1000 at the moment.

Or even 'this is how ours works'.

Hiya, have a look at the Encourageandpraise.co.uk website as I bought some charts off there and there was quite a lot of useful advice from what I remember. There were certainly useful tips on the charts when they arrived. They do different charts for boys/girls and diff ages up to 12yrs too. We let our little boy earn 10 stickers before he gets a little reward ie an extra bedtime story/small packet of choc buttons/ half hour of TV/ small book or toy. Hope that helps a bit x

I wouldn't remove any stickers/ reward tokens etc. for bad behaviour.
Whatever the child does to miss-behave shouldn't affect what he has already earned.

I have a sticker chart on my wall that I printed from a website called stickersandcharts.
I have told my ds's (2 and 3) that it is for all types of good behaviour, so when they share a toy nicely, they get a sticker. When they stay in theor own beds all night, they get a sticker. When they eat their dinner, they get a sticker. You get the picture.
When they have 5 stickers, they get to choose a sweet from mummy's box which is a big tupperware pot full of chocolate coins, lollies, other little sweets etc.

When they are bad, the 2yo gets put in a time out which is on the sofa, and the 3yo gets sent to his room.
They also both have favourite toys removed. The first time it'll be for 15mins (toy removal) the second time the rest of the morning, the next time, all day.

My DS is nearly 7, and he knows that there are certain things he's expected to do, e.g. make his bed, put his dirty washing away, set the table, do his homework/reading without getting stroppy etc. He gets 20p a day as "pocket money" which goes in a glass jar at the end of every day. Any bad behaviour or refusal to do something and he loses 5p at a time. If he was to lose all the money and then carries on with bad behaviour (hasn't happened yet!), he would lose his TV/computer time. Seems to work better for him than stickers at this age.

Thank you every one.

We have printed off the star charts and dd and ds2 have happily coloured in their pictures. DS2 has earned 2 stars. I can see them doing tiny things to earn stars so have said they can only ask to earn stars twice a day and the rest of the time I award them.

I agree with not taking stars away. This seems to be tied up with ignoring bad behaviour.

They are desperate to play on daddy's xbox so that is what they are working towards.

Flash points for us are when daddy has left for work and I need them to get shoes and coats on. DS1 likes to turn the tv off the second I say about going just to annoy his younger brother. I am going to limit tv in the mornings to one day a week but they will earn stars for getting ready and being in the car without fighting. This is a serious safety issue for me when I am driving.

I use screen time as a reward. If they are nice to each other and do their agreed jobs/homework they get an hour at the end of each day. Seems to work well. Money and stickers don't hold my kids interest for some reason.

Fab, I've been thinking about your last post re the dc's finding little things themselves to. Earn stickers.......
What I'm thinking, is maybe buy a pack of gold and silver stickers, this way they can get a silver sticker for. Looking for helpful and kind things to do themselves, as I'm thinking this would be good to encourage as a life skill, but then get a gold star for something you deem to be worthy iyswim. Then they can have a reward for 2 gold stickers, like a sweet or fav dvd and a treat for 5 silver stars like a burst of bubbles or trip to park etc.

IMO, it'd be nice to get them used to looking for things to do to help others.......

Good point.

Today we are walking to school and stickers will be earned by those who get ready and don't moan about walking. They are all fine with walking and that was before I said about the stickers.