My first post im so worried

[PigletGirl]

Hey there i found this site whilst googling on adive for the problem i have

So here we were tonight sat watching emmerdale when the door knocked ..... it was the police asking if they could come in which we said of course
Aparently the NSPCC had contacted them as someone made a call to the NSPCC anon reporting that they think we abuse a child here who is about 6 (ds 2 is 8 but a little small for his age)
Obv we are shocked because our children are far from abused but we let them ask the questions they need to like where they go to school what GP they are with that sort of thing which we answered with no problem
They then spoke to the children asked them if they were happy at home , if they had any bruises or marks to which the boys answered they were happy at home and no no bruises (although DS1 started to ramble on about a couple of lads he has issues at school with which is being dealt with)
Both boys shook the police man and ladies hand without prompting etc as they have always been taught to be polite

The police asked if we knew of anyone that had a vendta against us which as far as i know we dont (i dont go out really because im disabled and have mobility issues and dp only goes out to pick the boys up from school and to get shopping etc etc) we dont really have much to do with the neighbours at all as they have only just moved in
The police seem satisfied when they left although im not sure what the next step is ?? if any ??

The only thing i can think of is the following
DS2 has a FOUL tempers to the point he will throw things slam doors scream very LOUD bang about and then scream some more all this because we have said no to him or something
Im thinking the new neighbours have heard this and are worried which tbh i have NO issue with at all as i would rather they report something if they were worried and wish more people would do so with children

Me and DP have decided we are going to get DS2 checked out as tbh this temper of his is not normal , he has always had a temper since about 2 years old he used to headbutt the walls and floors and scream etc but just lately it has got a LOT worse
Now both me and DP are guilty of shouting sometimes so i can understand why people would think we were hurting him as teamed with DS having a screaming fit every 10 minutes could seem like we are doing something to him but honestly all we have to do is say no and thats it he is off and we dont shout a lot but sometimes it does get a bit much

Im thinking maybe adhd but im not sure because at school and other peoples houses he is an absolute angel doing well at school etc its just when he is home
Homework he starts to do all nicely then its like a switch that has gone off and he is scribbling on it ripping or screwing it up and then screaming and crying etc all because he has spelt something wrong or made a mistake

He refuses to eat most foods and will only eat certain things which he has on rotation

Im not sure tbh all i know is i was bloody scared and shocked when the police were at the door and like i said to them i can barely get up for the toilet let alone beat my children

Just wondered if anyone had any experience on the police thing or on ADHD ????

thanks xxxxxxxxxxx

I just dont know where it has suddenly come from tbh im guessing a hormone surge or something its like he has hit teenage years early with the terrible twos chucked in (he is 8)
DS1 was NEVER like this he went through a crying phase at 5 but it didnt last long and we have never had any problems since really or before that (im thinking he is gonna make up for it later lol)

They have just left to go over to my brothers for the weekend an god knows i need the break (as awful as that sounds) but time to recharge the batteries and then tackle it again head on , on sunday if needs be

We have made it clear that it is all about choices he has a choice be good and no meltdowns etc then he gets rewarded have meltdowns etc and he does not get any treats HIS choice therefore he can make his own mind up
We are a bit in-between with him in regards to that at the moment lol but im thinking now he is realising we do mean business that in his own interest he is good

We have also decided to design a reward chart where each day he is good he will get a pound (he loves to save pocket money) each day he is naughty , meltdowns etc he will lose a pound as he seems to thrive on that sort of thing when he was younger and we are basically going back to basics with him and go from there

Thank you all again for the advice and support it does mean a lot and tbh its kinda kept me sane the past few days lol

it doesn't sound awful that you can,t wait to have a break from your dc.
i try to get mine to sleep at a friends house whenever possible.
so does every other parent that i know and the 1 common thing we all say is that other peoples dc are better behaved than our own. i think my 3 are the spawn of satan and my best mates 5 yr old twins are angels. she says it's the other way around.