I feel so bad

[Feelingsensitive]

I completely lost it with DD this morning. She is only 5 and I feel like scum. Am sitting here crying. She was fussing about one thing after another and taking ages to do everything. I had to ask her about 10 times to put her uniform on. I snapped when she started fussing about her tights (of all things), I pulled them off her and told her to stop being such a princess. I then roughly pushed her towards the bathroom and shouted to get her teeth cleaned . My friend was waiting outside and she was dordling along as though she had all the time in the world. She was crying and told me she hated me and I said I hate her too sometimes. I said I loved her before she left but I feel awful knowing she has gone to school with that going on before. I feel like the worse mum ever.My mum was like this with me when I was young and I have some awful memories of her temper flaring in a very similar way. Feel so ashamed and couldn't possible speak to anyone in RL. Any advice?

It is one day in a long life.

At 5 she has little or no understanding of the passing of time and isn't able to prioritise her actions in the mornings.

You, on the otherhand have an adult's appreciation (???) of deadlines and timetables and stresses and anxieties.

There are a million other households just like yours this morning.

Everything will be fine. You love her and she loves you.

Find a photo of her, cuddle it and then (if you have a lunch hour) go and buy her a gingerbread man for a treat for later. (And a great big doughnut for you).

We had a morning very similar. It is one out of another thousand that will be better. DD is 9.8 and had a strop because Daddy hadn't kissed her goodbye before he went away. He had but she would not accept that she was still asleep. We had to phone him to confirm that big bad mummy wasn't lieing. I know he did, it was at 6.15 just before I drove him to the station.

Thanks. I called my friend and spoke to DD on the phone to tell her I love her. I just need to be more organised in the morning and maybe don't expect her to do so much.

I can relate to how you are feeling OP. My almost 5 yo DD is much the same as yours. She takes ages to get ready and im always aware of time ticking, no parking spaces being left for us if we dont leave in time, late for school etc etc. I too have snapped and marched her to the bathroom, roughly finished dressing her, being all shouty and so on :(

The past week i have made sure i am up early, making packed lunch and getting myself and the baby ready so that when DD1 comes down i can help her get ready at a slower pace and we have a laugh and play :)

Much better and saves you feeling guilty all day until she gets home. It is an awful feeling isn't it but like others said you are not a bad mum and you are not the only one who has mornings like this!