baby three?stick at two?

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hello all,
i have 2 aged 3.6 and 2.im a SAHM and ive hit the stage that im beginning to get broody again. When ds2 was first born it was really hectic and i admit i didnt cope very well. i had the baby blues big time and i really felt the pressure. Now im really enjoying it, and like being at home with the boys. I dont know if its just because the youngest is getting bigger but i find myself getting broody again. Is a third child really hard going? has anyone been in this situation and taken the plunge and had number three? is this just a phase?will it pass?

I also found it hard going from 1 to 2 and had horrendous PND.

I felt that I would like a third but maybe with a bigger gap when DC2 had started school.
In the end the decision was made for us and I accidentally got pregnant with DC3 when DC2 was 16 months.
It is hard work - I won't lie. But I love DC3 to bits and finally feel that my family is complete.

I'm having a complete dilemma about this too - we have 2 dds, one of 8 and one of 6. There's 18mths between them and I sort of feel as though the baby years went past in a blur! I haven't felt broody at all, but all of a sudden I cannot get the idea of a third out of my head. DH is adament that 2 is a fab number and that the age gap would be too great. Right now I am really struggling to put the idea to the side. Will it pass? Not sure!

thanks guys, i just cant imagine not having a third, i have always wanted three. dp is quite happy with two and i kind of feel like i might as well get it all over with in a oner..while the boys are still pretty hard work. does that sound mental? but u know what i mean..it might be harder to go back to the baby stage when they are more independent. My career is on hold for the foreseable future as we live in very small town with high unemployment.

truffle did you still have pnd when you fell pg with dc3?if so how did you cope? i have pnd and am being treated with anti ds and have been totally fine. have had a score of 0 on my last two depression tests thingys.To be honest i think i've prob always been depressed as this has been the best ive felt ever. i just dont know how it all works with anti d's and pregnancy. Id prob have to come off them?

I keep thinking about having another baby but my DH is happy with the 2 we have. They are 4yrs and almost 7mths. It is really odd to think but when ever I thought of a family when I was younger I alway wanted 3, so at the moment I don't feel that my family is complete. I have got a 3 and half year age gap between the 2 I have already got. Even we do have anymore children we have got to get a new house cos we are living in a 2bed house with w boy and girl so need to get a bigger house. I had alot of problems after my son was born and ended up loosing 4 & 1/2 pints of blood and having a 2pint blood transfusion, which scared my DH alot. So trying to get my head around trying to talk to my DH about having more kids any ideas??

I'm still on my AD's Clara.

My doctor advised my to stay on them as I was at high risk of getting AND and PND again - I have a history and have been on AD's before.
It didn't affect my pregnancy in any way. The midwives did observe my DD for signs of withdrawl when she was born but I still had a 6 hour dischargs as I trained as a nurse so I knew what to look out for.

id maybe try and and talk to him about the practical aspects of a new house, financial stuff and all the practicality aspects sorted first, i know my dp worries about the money/house size stuff first then express your need for another baby.is there a chance any complications could happen again?or was it a condition that was treated?x

see i think that i had AND during my second pregnancy but had no clue that i might be depressed and to be honest it kind of put a cloud over my 2nd pregnancy as i didnt have a clue what was wrong with me. Now i know and am being treated for it, i feel great and at peace for the first time. I just worry sometimes about the whole.."try and get off them asap" thing that everyone seems to to try and tell you. Thats a relief thanks truffle!!

polK theres a thread a little further down (ache to have 3rd baby) that I've responded to about having a third baby with a big gap. Have a look!