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help me deal with my "diva" 11mo

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christmascakequeen · 03/01/2011 18:42

dd is 11mo and is a very hard work baby when we are at home, I cannot put her down at all without her screaming and crying hanging off my trouser legs! She ALWAYS wakes up screaming from a nap or in the morning as if she has just been stabbed, I think i was spoilt with ds who was always a very happy baby who would lie in his cot chatting and cooing and had no problem with me getting on with housework/hoovering etc.

DD will scream if I hoover, I have taken to plonking her in the playpen if it desperately needs doing (and believe me I have had to lower my housework standards)but I feel terrible as she screams and cries.

BUT the thing is if we are out and about she is the happiest baby in the world so i know its nothing physical making her cry.

I love dd to pieces but I am really struggling with the constant moaning and crying i feel like my house is a shitheap that I don't get to spend any quality time with ds and by the end of the day my blood pressure is through the roof.

I would just go out but she will NOT under any circumstances sleep in the pram so when we get home she is even worse than normal

also there are no nap times as ds has dropped his and hasn't started nursery yet

so basically please help me to find some coping strategies and maybe get some housework done.....

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perfectstorm · 03/01/2011 19:48

Oh God, prime separation anxiety time if DS was any guide. It was hell - I remember having baths in his nap because the hysterics of him hanging on the stairgate, sobbing piteously, was more than I could handle (loo in bathroom which he wanted to paddle in, so couldn't let him in). He did the same at the kitchen door whenever I cooked anything so he used to get a cold lunch and a meal I'd made the day before after he went to bed at night for supper. Just remembering that time sends my blood pressure up. It was so, so miserable. You couldn't bloody do ANYTHING and then DH would come home and get annoyed that the house was a tip.

After that phase I had the angry and contrary one. He's 2 now and a little angel, so I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop once more.

No advice, just a lot of sympathy and the usual chant of, "this too shall pass."

perfectstorm · 03/01/2011 19:50

*and a meal I'd made the day before after he went to bed at night, for supper.

Without that comma it looks like I fed him after he went to sleep. I may at times be a useless mother, but that's a step too far, even for me!

ShowOfHands · 03/01/2011 19:53

Does this sound familiar?

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earwicga · 03/01/2011 19:59

She's not a 'diva', just normal. This will pass in time.

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earwicga · 03/01/2011 20:01

ShowOfHands - that sounds very familiar to me! That baby is now a very happy, lovely 8 year old.

ShowOfHands · 03/01/2011 20:14

Mine is a very happy, independent, kind, lovely 3yr old.

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christmascakequeen · 04/01/2011 08:37

Thanks everyone think I am just at the peak of frustration! know she is not a diva really just helped me to explain her on the thread title.

you have given me hope

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MrsMc82 · 06/01/2011 09:06

DS is 11mo old too and had started having a paddy, really dramatic "forced" crying where he puts his head in his hands if we leave the room or something - might be totally wrong way to deal with it but we just laughed at him whenever he did over the xmas holidays so in last few days when he's done it we've just said "uh ooo what's the drama??" And laughed and then he's laughed and been fine....... Like I say might well be totally wrong way to deal with it tho! :o

Justalittlereindeer · 06/01/2011 14:26

From 11 months til...well I've only just realised we're out the other side, DD was a nightmare. Very clingy, stroppy, chucked herself and her things about, frustrated beyond belief!

It was a hard time. She'd would fly off the handle at the slightest thing, and unless I followed her directions/requests immediately she would go into one!

In the end, I just tried to understand what she might be feeling. Frustration was number one I think, so we ramped up teaching her words and signs that helped her communicate what she needed. I tried to relax about stuff I needed/wanted to do, and wherever I could I'd be with her. We use a sling anyway, but I used that more when she needed me and I had to do something like cook.

But at 17 months, and for the last few months she's been a different child. Much nicer to be around.

"This too shall pass"...gets me through every time!

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