rudeness to other children

[HairyWoman]

DD age 7 is sometimes extrememly rude to other children when they come round to play. After a short play she will basically ignore them, go upstairs when they are downstairs, go downstairs when they they come up and generally look fed up with them. If i ask her why she is ignoring them she will just say she is bored/has a headache etc. but these are people she says she wants to see and she will do it to everyone at some stage.

I'm feeling really clueless about this. She is an only child and I want her to keep her friends. Has anyone else had this problem, what do i do? I've tried suggesting games they play or coaxing her out of it unsucessfully but tbh just find it embarassing and have just got mad at her because she's done it again.

She's tired of them being there, not used to having to be around other children in her own house, and she wants her own space back.

Mine have done this to some of their guests too. It really is horrible, and embarrasing. Basically, I don't have those children back again as there is no point.

Very succinct coldtits. She often has (very enjoyable) sleepovers/spends the whole day at their houses and I feel I should at least reciprocate with a good few hours at ours. It doesn't seem fair to only invite them round for a couple of hours.

play dates at playground may work better. or a bit more structure. Even if that means they watch a video/ TV together for a bit.
My only is still getting the hang of "people to play in his space" and I find that keeping it short helps too.

I think two hours is about right. After that things can go a bit downhill.

Mine does the same. Us parents have agreed amongst ourselves that 2-3 hours in optimum. Otherwise I have stern words about how one behaves when you have guests.

Also, I find distraction helps. Oh look, let's have a drink and a biscuit, let's put the Wii on for half an hour etc ....then they have forgotten about it and go back and play again.

Oh, thought this thread had died. I agree a short time is good, DD stays for sleepovers and nearly whole days at their houses apparently without problems, so I'll have to find a way to cut that time down too as it doesn't feel fair to not reciprocate with a good few hours.