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Feel like we're back to square one again.......

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QueenOfQuotes · 29/09/2005 16:25

Since DS1 has started reception he's become increasingly "naughty" at home. The parents evening yesterday helped 'reveal' some of what I expect is part of the reason for this. Their learning is very much still based around 'play' and as such have lots of 'home' style thing to play with (eg phones). A lot of his 'naughtiness' has been him playing with the phone (mobile and landline), and taking things off shelves which he knows he shouldn't have (and them blaming his brother)

Today he came home and told me he'd been in the 'craft' area........and I've just gone downstairs to find that he'd pulled a pile of things off the piano (which his brother can't reach as I've moved the piano stool out) and found the scissors out of his crayola 'design' set (stashed out of DS2's reach). He's then cut lots of the papers (thankfully nothing too important) into little pieces........and then tried to blame his brother (again).

I've just started a 'take a toy away' method of discipline (yesterday) and alrady have 1 morrisons bag full of them.

How on eaerth do I explain to him (and make him understand) cutting, sticking, ripping, playing with 'home' equipment etc etc are "ok" at school in the play environment, but NOT ok at home.

He's a bright boy, but this latest incident has done nothing to 'improve' the already strained relationship we're having atm.

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QueenOfQuotes · 29/09/2005 16:26

oops - this title should be "how do I explain to my reception child the difference between school and home"

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dinosaur · 29/09/2005 16:28

QoQ - can he have easy access to some stuff at home that can be specifically his and is specifically for cutting, sticking, ripping etc? Sorry if that sounds a bit obvious, you'll probably tell me he has that already...

QueenOfQuotes · 29/09/2005 16:30

he does - all he has to do is ask - it's kept out of DS2's reach.....

It's not just the cutting, it's the phones, cameras, DH's laptop, central heating system , and other stuff which he knows he shouldn't touch.

It wouldn't be so bad if DS2 (22 months) hasn't started to copy him

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hunkermunker · 29/09/2005 16:30

Can you ask school to explain the difference to him? (To the whole class - not singling him out, obv!)

QueenOfQuotes · 29/09/2005 16:31

I did wonder that HM - don't want to look like a neurotic mother that has no control over her child (although I feel like that ATM).

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dinosaur · 29/09/2005 16:33

Wouldn't it be better to keep the sticking stuff within his reach (so what if DS2 gets it too, he can't do that much harm with a few bits of paper, can he? and keep the camera, phone etc out of reach?

Otherwise - what about Soupy's pasta jar approach?

QueenOfQuotes · 29/09/2005 16:36

DS2 is a nightmare with paper - we've had to move the stairgate from the bottom of the stairs, to the living room door - as if he got to the post first.........

It's not so much the paper, it's the glue and scissors I'm worried about with him. The camera and phone (well apart from landline as there's no where else to keep it) are kept on the top shelf of the bookshelf - which DS has to stand on something to reach......and does. Then he encourages his brother to climb on the piano (by pulling a dining room chair out - but I'm usually quick enough to catch that one as it takes some effort) and pull things off the top, not to mention pulling the edge of the papers off the shelf so that DS2 can pull them out properly.

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QueenOfQuotes · 29/09/2005 16:44

Pasta jar sounds great - but I know DS will 'expect' his reward (if he's good) and if you read my other thread (with the same title as this one - as I wasn't paying attention and my computer 'filled in' the thread title for me \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=9&threadid=110939&stamp=050929155931} you'll see I can't afford to buy him any treats ATM

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hunkermunker · 29/09/2005 16:44

Can you tell him you're really worried that DS2 will hurt himself if he tries to copy DS1 and that you'd really like it if he could be a grown-up boy and keep him safe?

QueenOfQuotes · 29/09/2005 16:46

tried that - seems to make no difference

until instances like yesterday when DS2 - about 6ft away from DS1 - so I know it wasn't his fault - fell over and banged his head on the coffee table - cue blood (which I didn't see as I had him over my shoulder) and absolute hysterics from DS1 (not to mention blood all down my cotton jacket....)

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