My kids are just watching tv

[kitkey]

My poor poor DSs 19 mths and 3 are just watching tv today and will probably do tomorrow and i don't know how to stop it because I am feeling so low about a miscarriage I had 5 weeks ago. I'm not down about the miscarriage as such just the fact that my body does not seem to want to return to normal - i really expected AF as I tracked ovulation (not pregnant again). I keep crying, having massive anxious moments that I will never get pregnant again because of a complication of the mc. I have in fact gone mental. The kids are dressed and I can play games with them but I have no energy or motivation to go out so the TV has been on all morning. I cant be bothered to do messy play and all i want is it to be bed time - for me. I keep wishing xmas to come only because other adults will be here and I can zone out, but in reality I can't be bothered to put on a brave face - I want to be a misery. I am an awful selfish wife and mummy.

What, you're selfish coz you're feeling rubbish and letting the kids do something they enjoy?? When the weather makes it difficult to get out for long, anyway?

You're being way too hard on yourself. We've had a tummy bug in the family and I've barely been off the sofa all weekend, telly on almost nonstop since there's gotta be some consolation to DC for not being able to eat properly.

It would be good if you could find some adults to talk to IRL, just let you vent. See if you can think of just one constructive thing to do today, even if it's only tidying up the kitchen well, and focus on that. We should all be allowed some dead days, otherwise.

I bet your children are enjoying the unlimited TV- I bet they aren't watching Tv thinking, 'wish mumm would get out the glue' If they usually have restricted tv , then for them it's a treat. Give yourself a break. You have a lot to deal with emotionally and pyhsically- your children won't grow up to be brain dead loosers just because you let them watch unlimited Tv while you are trying to get your head together. give yourself a break x

Mine are sat in front of the tv and I have no excuses. You've been through a trauma and need some time out. If putting them in front of tv is giving you some peace then don't worry about it. You are not a selfish wife or mummy because you care. Hopefully at Xmas you'll have a bit more support. Just hang in there and take care of yourself x

As a little comment about getting pregnant after a MC, I felt the same way. I lost my first baby at 9 weeks at the end of this March and it took until the end of August to get pregnant again. I'm now 18 weeks along. Don't rush it and please don't worry. Your body will recover but it needs a bit of time. Try to stay healthy, get your iron levels up and lower any stresses - this will give you a much higher chance than worrying and beating yourself up about things. Raspberry Leaf Tea helped me such a lot too, as a little tip. And as for the kids watching TV - it's Christmas and the weather is terrible! What a nice treat for them.

Be kind to yourself.