Dissapointing my Mum yet again.

[DesperateStudent]

I know that this is a forum for Mums but I really need some guidance.

I am a nineteen year old student in my 2nd year of University. For years and years I have been letting my parents and myself down academically, and I always promise to sort myself out and never seem to be abe to follow through and when this happens I feel like I am disappointing my parents and as a result lie to them telling them that everything is fine when it is not.

I have been told to repeat this year of university and I feel like this is the kick up the butt that I needed finally I feel like it is getting through, but due to all of these years of experience of disappointing them I know exactly how the conversation will go. I am worried and nervous I don't know how to approach the subject without causing an arguement.
Any Advice?

Write them a letter. Say what you say in your post. And that you are grateful for their help. And that you love them.

why do you keep letting them down? because really, if you are messing up, it is yourself that you are letting down too

are you struggling with the work ? do you not like the course?

is this a pattern of behaviour?

and you need to be honest and upfront and not say things are fine if they are not

good luck

If they love you, they will want to help you and support you. So be honest about what the problems are and work with your tutors to find a solution.
Is it just lack of application, or are you struggling with more than that?
The University doctors are well able to support you if you are depressed.
When you say this year, do you mean this last term?

I agree you should work with your tutors to find a solution, but there does come a time when you have to give yourself a talking-to and actively decide to knuckle down. When I was at Uni I found the amount of work required to be a massive shock as I'd spent my secondary school years cruising. I talked to a tutor and she recommended a book called Learn How To Study which I found incredibly helpful. I also bought a book called The Focus Zone which was great. Both are basically about managing yourself so that you don't procrastinate and use your time effectively.
Good luck!