Can you tell a child you love them too much?

[desperatehousewife]

Might be a stupid question, but am keen to see what people think. I tell my 3 yr old boy lots of times a day that I love him and he spontaneously tells me he loves me too a couple of times a day - which is really lovely (it may of course make you feel like chundering?!).

But he has been going to nursery since the age of 1 and now pre-school and has to be peeled off my legs sobbing pretty much every day when I drop him off - what's that all about?

Nope, I don't think you can ever tell them that too much. He could just be at a clingy stage. DD was fine with leaving me, and since her 2nd birthday is glued to my side.

It is probably a phase dd used to go in cycles about being clingy . I think so long as it is sincere when you tell children you love them it doesn't matter how often you say it adn as long as love is demonstrated as well. It is no good saying I love you and then banishing teh child to a room for example.
sorry this is probably no help to you. Is teh preschool in a different place to nursery maybe it is hard for him adjusting to being one of teh smaller / younger ones

It is probably a phase dd used to go in cycles about being clingy . I think so long as it is sincere when you tell children you love them it doesn't matter how often you say it adn as long as love is demonstrated as well. It is no good saying I love you and then banishing teh child to a room for example.
sorry this is probably no help to you. Is teh preschool in a different place to nursery maybe it is hatrd for him adjusting to being one of teh smaller / younger ones

It is probably a phase dd used to go in cycles about being clingy . I think so long as it is sincere when you tell children you love them it doesn't matter how often you say it adn as long as love is demonstrated as well. It is no good saying I love you and then banishing teh child to a room for example.
sorry this is probably no help to you. Is teh preschool in a different place to nursery maybe it is hard for him adjusting to being one of teh smaller / younger ones

It is probably a phase dd used to go in cycles about being clingy . I think so long as it is sincere when you tell children you love them it doesn't matter how often you say it adn as long as love is demonstrated as well. It is no good saying I love you and then banishing teh child to a room for example.
sorry this is probably no help to you. Is teh preschool in a different place to nursery maybe it is hard for him adjusting to being one of teh smaller / younger ones

It is probably a phase dd used to go in cycles about being clingy . I think so long as it is sincere when you tell children you love them it doesn't matter how often you say it adn as long as love is demonstrated as well. It is no good saying I love you and then banishing teh child to a room for example.
sorry this is probably no help to you. Is teh preschool in a different place to nursery maybe it is hard for him adjusting to being one of teh smaller / younger ones

It is probably a phase dd used to go in cycles about being clingy . I think so long as it is sincere when you tell children you love them it doesn't matter how often you say it adn as long as love is demonstrated as well. It is no good saying I love you and then banishing teh child to a room for example.
sorry this is probably no help to you. Is teh preschool in a different place to nursery maybe it is hard for him adjusting to being one of teh smaller / younger ones

Of course you can't tell a child you love them too much. I doubt that there's any link between his clinginess and you telling him you love him, if that's what you're thinking - some children are a bit clingy, some are not.

I'm sure he's absolutely fine once you leave him, and the self-confidence that he will get from knowing he is loved is immeasurable.

I think that telling your son you love him loads and him not wanting to leave you are unconnected personaly. You are his mummy and, obviously, he loves you too. You have always been a constant presence and being away from you takes some getting used too. Eventualy he will be fine and the thought of you telling him how much you love him, will make him more confident. He grow to be ok without your actual presence at pre-school but he will always be happy at the thought of being loved by you. I don't think you can tell them too much. Just my opinion obviously!

HTH

sorry had problem with posting

I think that telling your son you love him loads and him not wanting to leave you are unconnected personaly. You are his mummy and, obviously, he loves you too. You have always been a constant presence and being away from you takes some getting used too. Eventualy he will be fine and the thought of you telling him how much you love him, will make him more confident. He grow to be ok without your actual presence at pre-school but he will always be happy at the thought of being loved by you. I don't think you can tell them too much. Just my opinion obviously!

HTH

ooh i had a problem too and seem to have posted twice- oops!

Thanks for this - and also thanks for getting your views across so many times!!!

I think deep down I know that you can't love someone enough - i'm just feeling wobbly that he's so wobbly. This is only his 4th time at pre-school and I guess it's going to take some time and he just needs to make some friends.

thanks though for the support
x

Personally I think you can tell them too many times but you can't show them too many times. If you keep saying it, it loses it's specialness iyswim.

I often tell DSs that I love them but I try not to say it too often but show them in lots of different ways instead.

I don't think the amount you tell them has anything to do with the clinginess though.